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chet69 03-21-2011 02:17 PM

Indians dating/marrying non-indians:
 
Here is a new thread so we may discuss this subject once again that is very important to some of us (like me for instance).

I'm not talking about people from India either so let me make that clear. j/k

Since there don't seem to be many indian women around where I live I don't really have a choice. If I date someone it's gonna be a non-native. It's too far for me to go searching for a nice indian lady (as far as I know).

Eligible native women are welcome to PM me or submit pics of themselves if they're close enough to me and I don't know about them.

My sis married a white guy and they're still together (I think it's a miracle that they are but that's another story). :smile:

neling4 03-21-2011 04:48 PM

Whether you like it or not, I think it is inevitable.

Jadenia 03-21-2011 05:14 PM

aw
 
aw that sucks you seem like such a nice guy too. Man I wish I knew one nice full blood native woman i would so send her your way. shoot if I was single I might would pm ya LOL :shades_sm (not meaning that I'm full native because I'm far from it.)

Try that internet dating sites like e-harmony.... Maybe you can check the box labeled Native American and cross your fingers :P but yea it would be nice it natives could find other natives easier for dating purposes. Well good luck friend!!!

Zeke 03-21-2011 06:53 PM

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Originally Posted by neling4 (Post 1462891)
Whether you like it or not, I think it is inevitable.

Which means there's very little point in being worried or getting upset about it: at least to me.

Besides, I'll admit openly to a predilection for thick and busty dishwater blonde girls that look like they could be roller derby queens. :hypocrite

Am I trying to make this thread NC17 where we all just start posting pics of attractive women? "No."

I'm just reporting that it would be pretty hypocritical of me to say that what I appreciate is the below then act like I can tell anyone else what they find beautiful.

http://www3.pictures.gi.zimbio.com/C...KJZGeI0W8l.jpg

Jadenia 03-21-2011 07:39 PM

um
 
or on second thought you really could post in add in the local paper. Never know what you'd get with that, shoot u might find a native woman in your area or I know you'd fine some other women that would love them some native man... :) :regular_s

neling4 03-21-2011 07:41 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Zeke (Post 1462902)
Which means there's very little point in being worried or getting upset about it: at least to me.

That's pretty much what I meant, Zeke. Inter-racial marriage has been going on for millennia.

Kakeeya 03-21-2011 08:26 PM

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Originally Posted by neling4 (Post 1462904)
That's pretty much what I meant, Zeke. Inter-racial marriage has been going on for millennia.

Not in my home.... :star: Some in my family may have succumbed to it but not very many and neither have I. :cool:

Berry Picker 03-21-2011 11:13 PM

When I went through puberty, I was living in La Republica de Panama. Now I have a attraction to Latinas. But they are really just mix bloods anyway. So, Im not sure what the point is Im making.

If you have one parent who's full blood Blackfoot and another parent who's full blood Cherokee, which tribe do you enroll in? Is dual citizenship an option?

gothik_angellik 03-23-2011 02:23 AM

Well, I can see how it would be important...keepin the native heritage strong! I grew up in white suburbia and Im pretty sure my mom wants me to marry some nice euro-mutt white guy,.,.but since I have been living in diverse Chicago, I now don't care to date white guys,.,.,most of my friends here are Mexican. Plus my sister in law is Indian(from India ;)) So now I embrace multi-racial couples, tis a beautiful thing in my book.

chet69 03-23-2011 10:24 AM

Hey, I'm surprised that I got this many posts already. It seems most of them are from females too! :smile:

Don't get me wrong- I like women of all persuasions. I talked to a young lady from Russia a couple of weeks ago who said she's Mongolian. Very lovely young lady. I asked her for a date but it was probably too soon. To start off I'd just like to hear about what she thinks about everything over here. She said she's only been in country for 8 months.

Of course I have to be careful cause she may be a russian spy or something. j/k

BWAAHAAHAAAA!!

I also met a young black lady who looks like Halle Berry last week. Wouldn't mind taking her out either. :smile:

chet69 03-23-2011 10:26 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by neling4 (Post 1462891)
Whether you like it or not, I think it is inevitable.

NTTAWWT

(Not that there's anything wrong with that)


:shades_sm

Zeke 03-23-2011 12:02 PM

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Originally Posted by gothik_angellik (Post 1463004)
...keepin the native heritage strong!

(Can of worms?) So, DNA is the "heritage?" :eyebrow2:

Putting that aside, however, this "sort" of question has always intrigued me and is, I believe, the best sort of intellectual masturbation: what do we find attractive and why?

For example, please find below a representative photograph of what appears to be two perfectly normal, smiling, pleasant American Indian women of potential child-bearing age.

http://www.tribalconnections.org/pho...anwomen200.jpg

Great, huh? Dressed well, sunny disposition, yadda yadda... That should "work," right?

They, of course, do absolutely nothing for me. (sigh) Objectively, I can't think of any specific reason why that is the case, it just is.

On the other hand, this perfectly normal soccer mom getting out the vote?

http://bloximages.chicago2.vip.townn...review-300.jpg

She needs to let me buy her a coffee, immediately.

Now, here's the question: Have I always felt this way, biologically and as a personal preference, or have I been imprinted in some manner to prefer one over the other? (And, either way, am I the only one?)

Related to dating/marrying non-Natives, I think it's an interesting query.

CandaePrincess 03-23-2011 12:14 PM

I think it has to do with your preference.....is it in our DNA? I'm not sure. I don't have a taste for white guys....I think body hair is yuck...so native guys are what I am attracted to. But then you have mixed races attracted to one another. So maybe if you are more of one race than another, might you prefer that race? If I was more white than native, would I prefer white? Who knows? Is it a stigma? Is a white guy being with a minority woman "stepping down"? Is a native guy with a blonde, white woman a step up? Maybe it is simply based on how one was raised? You don't treat people different no matter their race, job status, etc. Maybe if you are raised as a child to be respectful and open to other opinions and ideas, you are open to dating and meeting more people?

gothik_angellik 03-23-2011 12:38 PM

[QUOTE=Zeke;1463032](Can of worms?) So, DNA is the "heritage?" :eyebrow2:

DNA-heritage-whatever it is...keepin the original lines strong when it comes to having kids...Im super proud of my German/Socttish heritage and it would be cool to marry someone of the same heritage so it would be stronger in our kids....i know that can be important to some people. Now Im more open...lol when i was a little kid I would always say I was going to marry an Indian and move to Australia(or some jungle of sorts) >.<

RDNKJ 03-23-2011 01:32 PM

As a related issue, here's a question I've had any number of debates with people about over the years. If a person isn't sexually/romantically attracted to people of a particular race or ethnic group, does that make the person racist? Most people I've discussed that with have said yes. I disagree. I don't think we choose who we're attracted to.

What about people who don't believe in inter-racial dating? Or, what about people who would prefer members of their group (race, tribe, religion, nationality, etc.) to marry only within that group?

Racists all? Depends? Who cares?

chet69 03-23-2011 01:56 PM

Zeke: I think one of those ndn gals is attractive.

It's all a matter of personal taste. Some gals of a certain race I may find atttractive and others I may not.

It's a roll of the dice.

I worked at an indian casino for about a year. There were at least two women I found very attractive but- you guessed it- they were already taken or just not interested.

Zeke 03-23-2011 02:32 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by chet69 (Post 1463046)
Zeke: I think one of those ndn gals is attractive.

It's all a matter of personal taste. Some gals of a certain race I may find atttractive and others I may not.

It's a roll of the dice.

I worked at an indian casino for about a year. There were at least two women I found very attractive but- you guessed it- they were already taken or just not interested.

I think the one on the right has a very pretty smile and, when (not often) I have been attracted to Native women, that has been the key.

That said -- some people are SO fickle -- there are those (similar to my face) who would say she doesn't look "traditionally" Native, she must be mixed, so then you're not "dating Native," anyway.

Garbage, right? :eek: To RDNKJ's point, I think those folks are racists.

RDNKJ 03-23-2011 03:03 PM

Zeke, which of my examples? All of them?

Zeke 03-23-2011 03:20 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by RDNKJ (Post 1463056)
Zeke, which of my examples? All of them?

Folks who would imply that the Native girl on the right isn't "Native enough."

NorthofAda 03-23-2011 03:55 PM

People are going to date and eventually marry people within their sphere of contact, whether it be face-to-face or virtual (i.e., online dating). If your sphere doesn't other Native people, then you're unlikely to date or marry one, regardless of what your tastes would prefer.

I think Zeke's point of imprinting is interesting.

When my sister was a young teen (13-ish) she met a guy who was in his 20s. He was kind to her and treated her like an equal, not like a kid. That made a huge impact on her. He was black, and when she got older and started dating she dated only black men and eventually married a black man.

I don't think preferring a certain race, tribe, nationality or religion is racist/discriminatory. If you're a Christian, you're probably not going to date or marry an atheist. I also don't think that going outside your race is a "step up" or "step down," although some do. I know my sister got all kinds of flak from some of my brother-in-law's black female friends because another "good" man went to someone who wasn't a "sister."

Zeke's point about "intraracial" discrimination is valid, too. There will always be people who want to judge whether someone is "NDN enough."


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