#Native Lives Matter

[C&HBrownsugar]

I thought I could do it, I thought, I could tell you what happened to my granddaughter, but it's so graphic, and painful, I can't.

She was murdered by her babysitter.

That's all I can say.

That babysitter is still free. She is still free. So what can I do?

I don't want to think bad about the DA in Canadian County, El Reno, OK. But come on, it's been 3 weeks. You are not pressing charges? WTF?

So Angry, so angry, and trying to just pray, but it doesn't help. I think native lives don't matter. So what can I do? How can I help?

anyone?

[C&HBrownsugar]

There is a tribal council meeting tomorrow at my Tribe. And I want to go and not tell them the whole horrible story, but say, this is the DA's phone number, ask him/her, what the **** are you doing about this?

How come this hasn't been on the news?

How come we don't matter?

I know maybe my familia would rather I didn't, but please understand, there has to be something done. Why is there nothing being done? How can I help?

[Spiritflight]

It must be very hard for you and everyone concerned. My deeply felt condolences to you and your family. I don't know if I find the right words, concerned not to say anything wrong. Trying to be as sensible as possible. I can "see" the pains you all must be going through. I wish I could be of some kind of comfort. Native life does matter to me and a lot of other people. May you all go after this evil ****sitter to receive the punishment she deserves. Contact native officials or other's that could be of some help, I am sure you all do what needs to be done. There must be someone who could help. Look around. I can't say much but if you don't mind, I give you a hug. You all must stay strong.

[subeeds]

A lot of times prosecutors proceed carefully so they have all their ducks in a row, and the accused won't walk. Case in point-my 16 yr. old stepdaughter was murdered by the guy who lived behind them. Police picked him up and charged him with it. Florida has a speedy trial law which is once you are charged with a crime, you have the right to be brought to trial within 90 (I believe) days. Before they found her, my stepdaughter was missing and her body in the woods for 3 weeks. There was very little evidence because of that, so they could not prove how she died. On day 89, I spoke with the detective in charge of the case, and he pretty much admitted they moved on the guy too soon. He also told me that the guy could take out a full page ad in the newspaper in 2 days, and confess to killing her, and the cops couldn't touch him. He literally got away with her murder. YOU DO NOT WANT THIS TO HAPPEN. Be patient. The DA also will not discuss much with you at this time. Accept that. I know it isn't easy. You also have to remember that your granddaughter's murder is probably not the only one he is dealing with at this time. Give it until the first of the year and see how it goes. Then, if nothing has happened, call the DA, tell him you aren't happy, and you are going to begin contacting the media, wanting to know why this killer is on the streets still. It's amazing how the thought of the media can motivate people.

I am so sorry for your loss.

[C&HBrownsugar]

Just an update, that nothing has happened in regards to the white system. You may hate me for saying that, like that. But that's the way the dice roll. I didn't make it to the tribal council meeting, my familia refused to take me, because I was so distraught. Distraught. geez. Can any word tone it down more?

It was probably a good thing.

The only thing I have heard was that the babysitter has lawyered up. eh. and her mother, who is the owner of Gallagher's Bar has told her bartenders to not say anything. Like wtf? really? Or get fired? hmmmm. It doesn't really matter to me. I will never go there again.

[subeeds]

I'm sorry things are moving so slowly for you. The justice system isn't known for it's speed. Did you get the PM I sent you? Let me know if I can help after you read it.

[C&HBrownsugar]

It finally happened. She was arrested today and charged with one count of first degree murder by child abuse. That is what was reported on Oklahoma's News channel 9. I still don't know how to share links.

Just relieved. I feel relieved.

[wardancer]

It finally happened. She was arrested today and charged with one count of first degree murder by child abuse. That is what was reported on Oklahoma's News channel 9. I still don't know how to share links.

Just relieved. I feel relieved.

Whoo Hoo ! Good news , now if they'll just follow through and get a conviction !

[AmigoKumeyaay]

It finally happened. She was arrested today and charged with one count of first degree murder by child abuse. That is what was reported on Oklahoma's News channel 9. I still don't know how to share links.

Just relieved. I feel relieved.

Oklahoma babysitter arrested for murder after toddler?s death | KFOR.com




EL RENO, Okla. – An Oklahoma babysitter is behind bars after being accused of murder after a child died after being in her care.

The El Reno Police Department says it arrested Lesley Hendrix on charges of first-degree murder and child abuse.

In November, authorities say a 23-month-old girl was rushed to the hospital after she was found unresponsive.

Doctors determined she had bleeding on her brain. The next day, she died from her injuries.

Hendrix allegedly told police that she put the child down to sleep, but then couldn’t wake her up.

According to an affidavit, Hendrix’s timeline of events is not consistent with the baby’s injuries.

She is now being held at the Canadian County Jail without bond.

[C&HBrownsugar]

thank you. Yes this is her.

[subeeds]

I"m glad to hear they have moved on her and charged her. No bail, either. That's good. All that's left is getting a guilty verdict.

[milehighsalute]

i hope your family gets justice....and i hope your family heals

[C&HBrownsugar]

There's a preliminary hearing today at 130pm cst in the Canadian County Courthouse. I'm planning on attending, along with my sisters, my mother, my aunty and uncle, and my nieces. I haven't really thought about this part. I don't know how to describe it. I don't really think about that woman or the pain she caused. I only worry about how my sister is doing, how her daughter is handling the grief and pain.

It just tears me up right now, having to face it. I've known for 3 weeks now about today but didn't want to think about it. I don't know what to expect. I'm just sitting here crying and listening to music, looking at this empty house wondering.

I hope you all have a great day today. That your pain and worries fall away. Have a good one.

~A.

[C&HBrownsugar]

Just an update. I got there at 1pm and my aunty Lindo and my sister Peggy were in the parking lot. My nieces Rae and Dawn showed up and then my sister Lana and her husband Jose. And that was it for our family. Aunty Lindo and Peggy drove in from Albuquerque and we sat outside of the courtroom for about an hour and 1/2.

That woman's family showed up but wouldn't come near the door. Everyone knew they were there and they sat down with their attorney to discuss how much it would cost to find a physician that could dispute the medical documentation from Mercy Hospital and OU Children's Hospital.

Theses are just my thoughts and I have discussed them with my sister, cried it out, and am okay with it now. So if it gets scarey for you, don't worry, I feel ya.

How come no one else came? How come it was pretty much all the females from my family there and no males? Is her life not worth more than the handful of sisters, nieces and one aunty? It ties into so much of how I feel about the males in my family. And maybe this is not the place for it, but I took time out to be there, to be supportive of my niece Dawn and my sister Lana but no one could be there? And then I think it has always been this way. That there has always just been a core of females in my family that lift each other up and support each other, and here they are. So while I was very unhappy with my uncles and brothers, I still felt good to see us females together.

We went to go sit in the courtroom and the prosecutor, Mr. Hesse, asked us to step out and we entered another courtroom where he discussed the case with us. They set another court date of March 25th and he says the earliest the trial, if it goes to trial, will be November. Her attorney has not requested bond, but he feels that her aunt, who is a bondwoman, would break her neck to get her bonded.

Another thought. While I was sitting outside the courtroom with my family, I was listening to her attorney and her family talking and I felt sad. Here is this other family that totally believes in their daughter, wife, sister, niece and are fighting just as hard to get her out as we are fighting to get her sent to prison for what she did, and I felt bad for them. I used to see them at the bar all the time, my sister Lana counted them as her friends, and here we are, not talking, not looking at each other, not visiting their establishment, trying to be painfully polite. I guess it just hurts.

[subeeds]

Of course it hurts. Once this is over, and she is convicted, this won't be in your face everyday, and maybe, hopefully, the hurt will begin to ease up for all of you. I think men have a more difficult time dealing with stuff like this than women do. Men are supposed to be the "protectors" and keep the women and children safe. When something like this happens, they aren't sure how to handle it, so they just avoid it.

I understand it must be hard for her family to deal with, too. I don't know how I would feel if a loved one did something this awful. Thanks for the update. I've been thinking about you and wondering how things were going.