Getting married

[nativegal]

I am getting married October 15th and am looking for suggestions. ok.... on my fiance' side 75% of his family is Christian, the other 25% is just normal home town partying types. My side are 1/2 laid back powwowing types, and the other are laid back also. So..... for our wedding I am going to wear the tradtional white dress, we are having the wedding and reception at the same place a reception hall at the state park over looking the river, and during the wedding I have asked some friends to do hand drumming, but the reception is where we are going to break out the clubbing type music and partying on back, without offending any one who goes to church, cause I respect them. Do you all think there will too much "cultural" things going on here or how would you mix it so that no one is offended, and everything runs as smoothly as possible? Thanks!

[Sparklebeadz]

Congratulations! Your plans sounds beautiful, and if its what you want then have it, everyone there is to celebrate your marriage, and your wedding as unique and spectacular as you want it, not to get all stuffy about the things that are important to you. Remember they love your both and want you to be happy? lol
oh and I was thinking an owl dance would be fun to have at the reception. lol

[nativegal]

Thanks sparklebeadz! OWL Dance what is that? As to happy? yeah your right.... that is just it happy???? with large question marks behind it! LOL!!

[billyjoejimbob]

The other side of the family should see your culture. God knows we see enough Christian culture everyday.

I got married back in December. My friends sang a song at the reception and gave us a blanket. We pretty much do that at all our friends weddings.

Now my friends are all jokers, they sang the duck and dive song. "Because I didn't dodge the bullet!" as they announced. Pretty funny, but I got them back, I lost my voice at the next powwow and they had to sing without their head singer.

Another friend played the flute at the wedding. Sounded pretty cool. Cant wait to see the video.

[Singing Eagle]

Congrats to you and your future husband!

I agree with sparklebeadz and think that as long as you do what makes the two of you happy then everyone who loves you and has come to share the day with you will be happy too!

I would also caution against doing things that are cultural but aren't familiar to you just for the sake of doing them! What if your family members want to learn more about it and ask questions about it and you don't have any answers??

[ElderberryEyes]

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[**First Lady**]

Congrats!!!!

I have been to a few church weddings where the brides incorporated their Native side....my sister walked up the aisle to a flute song and my cousin had someone play a handdrum and sing a song..also one of her Grandmother's tied a feather on her. I have a friend that wore beaded moccasins under her "traditional white gown".hehehe kewl huh!?

I think it's great that you want to incorporate your heritage and his...it's good to let both your friends and families know what the two of you are all about. After all it's your wedding, your day....your life! *high five sista*

[nativegal]

Thank you all I guess I have to say if they don't like it...They don't need to come at all,right. This is a special day for the both of us.....I love all the suggestions especially the moccasins under the dres....LOL!! Lovin it!

[AngelFeather]

Congrats on your special day....

and remember and remind everyone around you that it is YOUR day... that you will do things the way YOU want them to be done...Intentions of people are usually to help but they end up making a mess of things once toomnay people are involved.. choose those people that you know will respect your wishes and follow thru with your requests..

I use to do wedding planning not as a career but because I enjoyed it... and I have seen what someone else mentioned concerning wearing Moccasins with the gown... it was beautiful... and she also had a beaded crown/tiara instead of a veil. And sometimes if the church wont allow things such as drums and traditional flutes, you can always set up your reception to have more of a traditional setting to it.So theres alot of things you can do to incoperate your traditions and heritage, dont be shy and it will also give your other side (inlaws) a taste of it and maybe a more of a respect for who you are and where you come from. GOOD luk in all your plans and it IS YOUR day; well your hubbys too, but your the focus dont let anyone take that away from you.

[Sparklebeadz]

Thanks sparklebeadz! OWL Dance what is that? As to happy? yeah your right.... that is just it happy???? with large question marks behind it! LOL!!

I think the owl dance might be called a round dance everywhere else, where a woman asks a man to dance with her. And you were supposed to agree with me about everyone wanting you to be happy. lol

[woggs]

I think you have very cool ideas..I think the others are right in saying do what you feel is right..and I think it would be awesome for you to show "who you really are"..by adding some native spice to your wedding....Wedding days are so much fun..!!

[DANCINGEAGLE]

I am getting married October 15th and am looking for suggestions. ok.... on my fiance' side 75% of his family is Christian, the other 25% is just normal home town partying types. My side are 1/2 laid back powwowing types, and the other are laid back also. So..... for our wedding I am going to wear the tradtional white dress, we are having the wedding and reception at the same place a reception hall at the state park over looking the river, and during the wedding I have asked some friends to do hand drumming, but the reception is where we are going to break out the clubbing type music and partying on back, without offending any one who goes to church, cause I respect them. Do you all think there will too much "cultural" things going on here or how would you mix it so that no one is offended, and everything runs as smoothly as possible? Thanks!

Well, it's about time, LOL!!!!!! Sweetie, I'm so happy for you and Andy. Troy and Kelly beaded a Unity candle for their wedding and had 2 feathers on the bottom of it.

As far as offending anyone, don't worry about that. This is your wedding to do as you wish to make you happy, not everyone elses. That is your day. Your time to shine. Your time to be in the spot light. So, you have the type of wedding that is going to make you and hubby happy. Luv you much sweetie.

[nt_inuk]

Congrats to you nativegal

Congratulations grl