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You really haven't explained the responsibilities he needs to learn.
I think you're decision to leave him is immature in a few ways. Perhaps he should accept your abandonment and find someone who's more mature and isn't so dramatic. (now that I've got your attention)
You really haven't explained the responsibilities he needs to learn.
If he's abusing you, then leave for your safety. If he's not helping with house chores, tell him you're going away and you will only return when the house is clean or if he's partying with friends tell him he needs to cut his partying time way down or you and the little one are out of there. Most of this comes down to communication.
I see that your friends here support and comfort you, but they should also realize there's another person with feelings on the other side. Hope he doesn't have suicidal tendencies, or bunch of liquor around. This situation could put him over the edge.
Would you teach responsibility to a child by leaving them? (albeit he's not a child, simply consider the question) it takes a while to learn, even longer when you're on your own.
How would you feel if you were the irresponsible one? and someone left you out in the cold for you to learn it on your own?
What sort of "responsibility" would you like this person to learn? Social or Personal? His parents probably weren't the best teachers of these life skills. He may have not been the best student, there are alternative ways to increase his self-confidence.
I've never encountered this situation so no stories from me, but I've seen alot of single mothers out in the workplace and even more in the public assistance establishments.
Realize that there are several outcomes from this decision."We who are clay blended by the Master Potter, come from the kiln of Creation in many hues. How can people say one skin is colored, when each has its own coloration? What should it matter that one bowl is dark and the other pale, if each is of good design and serves its purpose well." ~~~Polingaysi Qoyawayma, Hopi~~~Comment
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Ah, yes...just like the law of physics...Originally posted by vince_jDamme ape’semmai, "Andabichidaiboonee’ gimmadu’i.Wihyu memme hainjinee’ nahandu’i. Enne wizha sudei’ tsaangu mabizhiahkande," mai.
The Creator said, "A foreign race of white people will come, who will become your friends. You should treat them well."
The Creator sure had a strange sense of humor!
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We need a native Jerry Springer or Maury show..........that would be cool....that way everyone can see how we all are....LOL!!!!sigpic
...And shephards we shall be. For thee my lord, for thee. Power hath descended forth from thy hand. That our feet may swiftly carry out thy command. So we shall flow a river forth to thee. And teeming with souls shall it ever be. E Nomini Patri, E Fili, E Spiritu Sancti.Comment
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Well! This explains that other thread! I thought 50cal was bored or somethin'....Originally posted by 50calDamme ape’semmai, "Andabichidaiboonee’ gimmadu’i.Wihyu memme hainjinee’ nahandu’i. Enne wizha sudei’ tsaangu mabizhiahkande," mai.
The Creator said, "A foreign race of white people will come, who will become your friends. You should treat them well."
The Creator sure had a strange sense of humor!
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Truthfully, I was.............*L*..............it's just so funny to me, all this drama we see and we turn and laugh at shows like J.S. , Maury, montel and whoever else.....when in actuallity we live the same way, sometimes worse..........anyway.....sigpic
...And shephards we shall be. For thee my lord, for thee. Power hath descended forth from thy hand. That our feet may swiftly carry out thy command. So we shall flow a river forth to thee. And teeming with souls shall it ever be. E Nomini Patri, E Fili, E Spiritu Sancti.Comment
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Originally posted by 50cal
Some of the shows could be:
"You left our dad for his brother and now my cousins are my siblings".
"I hooked up with this snag at a powwow and found out we are cousins".
Dude that would be a cool show.Comment
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Okay people sorry for all the DRAMA but I was looking for advice I don't want it to get ugly.
No i wouldn't leave a child to learn responsibilty but he is far from a child! So I changed my topic so there will be less drama!Last edited by shyannmason; 08-09-2005, 02:01 PM.
SAM
What don't kill you, only makes you stronger!!Comment
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SAM, If you got upset by 50cal then you took it the wrong way, he just likes to have fun. His wife Jadzmum gave you some really good advice and so did most others. People just have different opinions on things and its usually due to things they have been thru... Dont worry about what happens on a thread after you have gotten your advice, people sometimes see a thread dying down and make a joke on it too cheer it up and end it or sumthin like that. Let us know what happens as we do care.Originally posted by shyannmason90% Angel
10% Lil Devil
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Originally posted by shyannmason
OMG well it sounds like you and I are going through the same thing right now....My ex and I were together for a little over 6 years.....we're still very very close, we're just not b/f and g/f material right now....we were supposed to be getting married this summer but of course there has been a change of plans...So now I'm moving to Phoenix and we're going to take some time from each other and see how things go....We both need to see what we really NeeD....I wish you the best and I hope everything works out for you.........Certain Things Catch Your Eyes...Pursue Only Those That Capture Your Heart.....Comment
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Hey you guys thank for all the info. It really helps out to know that I'm not the only one who is going through this.
But where all over the drama and we are getting along better as friends and he is reconizeing all his faults and what he did wrong, Thank you to everyone!!! Most of all my good friend PW!!!
SAM
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Awwww! Your welcome! I am always here if you need me. Im glad to hear you two are getting along and talking things through. I just know it will all work out! Big HUGZ!90% Angel
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aaaaahhhhh group hug!
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Aahh man! Breaking up? Ummmm, just pray he's not a stalker! Ezzzzzz.... okay juss kidding. Be strong & pray. Your heart will not guide you wrong!"What goes around comes around. Work like you don't need the money. Love like you've never been hurt. Dance like nobody's watching. Sing like nobody's listening. Live like it's Heaven on Earth." Author-nknownComment
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