Why are people so rude?

[Cherie]

Someone told me it had to do with someones culture. Then someone said people are rude because they can do it and know they can get away with it.

I saw on a local news program where it was mentioned by a guest that people are more rude today then they were 20 or 30 years ago.Rudeness seems to be so prevalent in our society, from TV to popular magazines, it just seems like the thing to do.

When someone walks in front of someone I've never heard that person say " Excuse me". When someone says something to hurt anothers feelings I never hear that person say "I'm sorry".

I rarely if ever see a man open a door for a woman.

I've seen rudeness on public highways,in grocery stores, schools, and yes I've even seen people being their rude self on public forums. It's like they're in their own little world and could give a care for someone else.

In spite of these rude people I'll always say "I'm sorry", "Excuse me" and call someone Mr. and Mrs.

[ojibwaywmn]

Where I live, people are pretty good. Even the street peddlers use "excuse me sir"....lol. But I hate to say it but I find alot of the younger generation rude. They swear constantly on the bus..everywhere.

[Blackbear]

Alot of it is how they were raised. My kids' been saying please and thank you since she was 3 and understood the concept of please and thank you. She still is a big buttinsky but she's only 7, and has to learn alot of patience which is hard for a kid with ADHD, and I still remind her not to do this.

Another part is people are more self centered..no not stuck on themselves, but just are'nt aware of others around them as much as they should be. People are so wrapped up in their thoughts, stresses, and what they need to do that they don't notice that they are cutting people off, like they don't even realize they are there. They are'nt trying to be rude, they just don't realize that they ARE being rude.

[little bird]

Being Rude Reasons

My Reason's Why People Are Rude:
!. They don't know any better.
2. The way they were raised (like BB said).
3. Having a "bad" day.
4. It's a way they think their in control of the situation.
5. They were hurt bad in the past.
6. Selfishness
7. It's a "you're invading my space thing" when they don't want you to even if it's good.
8. Their self cautious.
9. They got emotional problems.
10. Unresolved issues.

[streamhawk]

I grew up in the 50's, and in the south, so my mom raised me to do all those things, yes sir, no ma'am, be polite ya know, still do it too. I sure don't remember things like road rage even when I started driving. I really think part of it is that money has become the thing so many hold sacred now, and the whole break your neck, get out of my way, go go go attitude that people get doing that. So many seem so "me" centered, it's all about me, and the heck with you. Between that and how expensive everything is nowday's, people struggle just to get by, causes alot of stress too. That and there are alot of people who have become disconnected from the earth, being around glass and steel all day every day, they don't know how to slow down and take in the simple things any more. Quite a world many live in now.

[Annie Fawn]

My Reason's Why People Are Rude:
!. They don't know any better.
2. The way they were raised (like BB said).
3. Having a "bad" day.
4. It's a way they think their in control of the situation.
5. They were hurt bad in the past.
6. Selfishness
7. It's a "you're invading my space thing" when they don't want you to even if it's good.
8. Their self cautious.
9. They got emotional problems.
10. Unresolved issues.

I agree.

[Joe's Dad]

Do you think that in some cultures, 'please' and 'thank you' are implied? I wasn't raised on please and thank, but I was raised to be respectful. (got alot of asswhippings from grandpa, grandma, aunties and uncles. lol) I used to work for a major corporation and was constantly having to defend myself for not saying 'please' and 'thank you'.

How many of you were raised on "Hey, go get that for me." with 'please' being said?

[Cherie]

Many people believe themselves to be far to busy to bother with social graces. I must admit that I have this failing myself from to time. How long can it possibly take to say Please, Thank you, or Excuse Me?

"Excuse me" I use the most, even though it's very often ignored. Mainly when I'm trying to navigate a walking area where people have decided that walking is far to much trouble, and they'd rather just stop and stand in the way. In that instance "excuse me" rather quickly becomes "get out of the way".It's not something I'm especially proud of but it seems necessary from time to time.
Politeness is dying. Not because people are becoming more and more impolite, but because people are begining to ignore politeness more and more often. At least that is my experience.

I was raised to say "Please" and "Thank You". My husband and I have taught our two sons to do the same.

When I was a parent volunteer in my son's art class in Middle School one whole school year I made all the students say Please and Thank You when they'd ask for art supplies and the teacher got a kick out of it.

[andre]

I get the strangest looks for saying please and thank you all the time (of course it may be the fact that I wear shorts in the dead of winter too). I always say excuse me when I walk through a crowd, but I never hear anyone else say it. I dunno. Maybe they are all off in their own little world. I personally think it has to do with the attitude that "the world owes me something."

I have been berated for holding the door for a lady who "didn't need [me] to". But other than that door holding seems to be a very common practice around here.

Smile, have a tater tot. 100% happiness in crispy potato form.

[Cherie]

Andre;Your comment about being berated for holding a door for a lady reminded me of something that happened to my husband years ago. My husband got chewed out one time for holding a door for a lady who had alot of books in her arms. She gave him a look that would've melted snow.

Whenever a man holds a door for me I always give him a big grin and a Thank you.

[Joe's Dad]

Many people believe themselves to be far to busy to bother with social graces. I must admit that I have this failing myself from to time. How long can it possibly take to say Please, Thank you, or Excuse Me?

"Excuse me" I use the most, even though it's very often ignored. Mainly when I'm trying to navigate a walking area where people have decided that walking is far to much trouble, and they'd rather just stop and stand in the way. In that instance "excuse me" rather quickly becomes "get out of the way".It's not something I'm especially proud of but it seems necessary from time to time.
Politeness is dying. Not because people are becoming more and more impolite, but because people are begining to ignore politeness more and more often. At least that is my experience.

I was raised to say "Please" and "Thank You". My husband and I have taught our two sons to do the same.

When I was a parent volunteer in my son's art class in Middle School one whole school year I made all the students say Please and Thank You when they'd ask for art supplies and the teacher got a kick out of it.

Cherie, what are the origins of 'please' and 'thank you'? In other words, what is their cultural origin, in what continent? Maybe it's not a matter of having time to say these words. Maybe it's a matter of the culture and traditions you were brought up in.

[Cherie]

Joe's Dad You want to know what are the origins of please and thank you?
In other words, what is their culture origin, in what continent?

Since I'm not a world traveler and have never been out of the USA it would be kinda hard for me to answer that.

I only know what I've observed in our own country of how different each and every generation is. We've become a "Me first" the heck with everyone else generation. I guess some people would call it survial. I call it just plain rude.

No matter how you slice it people are rude.Not everyone but some. Yes Joe's Dad it has alot to do with how someone is/isn't raised and their culture. There are things that kids get away with today that I wouldn't had dared to do when I was a child. I'd got my butt whipped.

Parents don't dare discilpline their children anymore. If they do then child welfare ancencies get involved. It's that vicious circle. To much goverment involvement in peoples lives.
I don't condon child abuse by any means but a tap on the behind didn't hurt me.

I was raised to say yes mam/sir and no mam/sir, please,thank you, excuse me, sorry. My husband and I raised our two sons the same way. Yes we even gave them a tap on the behind when they needed it.

[inuzrule]

why do i think people are so rude? hmm, the million dollar question.

it could be that they don't know any better, that they weren't raised by a polite family, like some of us were. it could be that they learned that "might makes right", and using manners was a sign of weakness. or it could be that they're just too darn lazy to put effort into acting polite.

...and i know what you guys mean about weird stares when you say please, thank you, or sorry. it kinda creeps me out that people think that's weird...

[little bird]

I think the phrases "Please" & "Thank You" started in the Renissance period of time or even before when there were Kings & Queens ruling as a type of respect and showing honor. Or, it could have just started by the " 'ole British chaps" and they spread it abroad. Just guessing.

[bahnisiain]

i think some people are rude because they don't know any better.