my horrible nightmare

[Blackbear]

BB..
I want to apologize. I'm sorry.
I honestly did think you were poking fun
And yes apparently I am overly sensitive about this whole thing. Its been 2 yrs of trying for my husband and I (together) but before that it was 4yrs with my ex with no luck obviously.. In the time I've been trying it seems like everyone around me has had kids already and support groups I've been in that were for trying to concieve... all of them got pregnant and I was the "last man standing" ya know?
again I apologize and best wishes for the remainder of your pregnancy

It's not good when two people oversensitive clash is it? LOL!

Sorry I went off like I did. I've had a very hard weekend and I need to complain today about a technician to my doctor who is largly the reason why I've had so much pain this weekend... but I'm the last person to make fun of anyone for reasons out of their control be it, disabilities, illness or infertility. I'm not a mean person and really have to be pushed to be mean to anyone in that manner because I don't feel there is any excuse for it.

Like I said in my first post.. my cousin's wife was in the same situation as you and she's now having her baby here in the next 4 weeks (same due date as me but firstborn) and is very excited. It confused me when she first was trying and after a year of not getting pregnant they immediately started her on infertility drugs and it blew me away. Especially after only a year of trying.

Do you know how hard it actually is to get pregnant? Those women and teens who do must have lottery luck! You have to have the right body conditions during the right 48 hours of the month with a fertile companion to even get the ball rolling... and as some of us unfortunately find out, it still does'nt work out and you miscarry and that's even more heartbreaking than it never happening at all.

Both my cousin's wife and I got pregnant this time after we had pretty much resorted to giving up and were looking into adoption. I had even already been approached about adopting a friend's grandson which came close to happening , but I'm glad she kept him so I can still see him (he's so precious!).

All I can say is that you ARE still young, and it can still happen without medical interferrence but you gotta stop stressing over it. Stress is the biggest, baddest factor to have and if you get that way now, it can make it worse for the unborn baby if you stress while pregnant.

Oh and they've found that dairy products increase the chances of getting pregnant.. I forget how but it was one of those new clinical finds that made sense when you heard it. Something about drinking plenty of milk and increasing folic acid ... I'll see if I can find it online for you.

[NorthofAda]

I can't speak from experience on this as I conceived the first time within like 2 months after getting married, but I have a friend who got pregnant after over 10 years of trying. Came to find out after lots of testing that she had a clotting disorder, Factor V Leiden. Once that was identified and treated she was able to conceive. Lots of things play into this, and you just have to be patient as already said and trust that things will work themselves out in their own time.

Hang in there!

[creekfairy]

My former coworker's son and his wife were going through the same complications. They were married for 5 years before they were blessed with a baby. My husband and I were married for almost 4 years (together for 2 year prior to getting married) before we had our first baby.

Patience is something you're going to have to work on. I know how hard it must be to wait, but in time you'll be blessed with one of your own. Patience is something a parent must have, so if you don't have it, don't have any kids.

I was a "step-mom" for 5 yrs to 3 children that belonged to my boyfriend/fiance..the baby was 3 months old when we got together and 2 months after we moved in together... all 3 of the kids moved in with us ..ages 5 months, 3 yrs and 5 yrs.. I was the girl scout "mom", home-room "Mom" and the like... and I've also worked with mentally disabled individuals who are definately child-like.. which I think all of that has prepared me to be a Mother.. atleast I hope so

I'm a firm believer in fate. I wouldn't take the scientific approach in conceiving, but if that's you, then so be it. That's for you and your family to choose. There are other options for everybody, like adoption. We knew it wasn't going to be easy, so we focused on adoption. We were getting ready to find a good adoption agency and looking at potential chldren when we received the good news that I was pregnant. I believe if we focus on other things and do good deeds, then we'll get something in return.

I'm a firm believer in non-traditional medicines as well and dont like taking medicines unless I have to... we tried the natural aproach.. I used herbs including Dong Quai, Vitex (chaste tree berry), Progesterone cream (from yams), cinnamon (for insulin resistance).. at one time I was taking 16 herb caps daily plus teh cream.. they did help as far as my carb cravings and getting my monthly back... but of course didnt get me pregnant... and yes we have talked about adoption within the tribe...or outside the tribe.. but thru a native adoption but we want to give this an honest shot first at trying to have our own


Have you really been trying to get healthier? I've done some research about PCOS, and read where if you exercised and ate healthier, then you're more likely to conceive. I believe that because I had lost some considerable amount of weight and next thing we knew, *poof* I was pregnant!

I've done so much research on PCOS that I'm like a walking journal on the subject... including about weight loss but its not as simple as it sounds... since my PCOS is so severe...losing weight for me is almost impossible which my doctor can see that also... the only time I was EVER able to lose anymore than a pound or two.. was by walking/jogging anywhere from 12 to 24 miles a day (I would sometimes do 12 in the morning and 12 again at night if I felt upto it) I was also doing work-out videos 2-3 times a week and on a very strict low-carb diet and low calorie diet and was only able to lose 30 lbs in 3 months....as soon as I went back to my "normal" life of eating "normal" foods... it all came back plus some... and I'm not a lazy person and I dont eat alot of junk food.. my doctor can see that there is majorly something going on... so thats why she wants to put me on Metformin (insulin resistance drug) to help with my insulin resistance so I can lose some weight without having to kill myself to do it

Good luck!

Thanks...

[creekfairy]

It's not good when two people oversensitive clash is it? LOL!

nope LOL

Sorry I went off like I did. I've had a very hard weekend and I need to complain today about a technician to my doctor who is largly the reason why I've had so much pain this weekend... but I'm the last person to make fun of anyone for reasons out of their control be it, disabilities, illness or infertility. I'm not a mean person and really have to be pushed to be mean to anyone in that manner because I don't feel there is any excuse for it.

Like I said in my first post.. my cousin's wife was in the same situation as you and she's now having her baby here in the next 4 weeks (same due date as me but firstborn) and is very excited. It confused me when she first was trying and after a year of not getting pregnant they immediately started her on infertility drugs and it blew me away. Especially after only a year of trying.

after telling my doctor that I'd been trying for several years with my ex and 2 yrs with my husband and using the herbals and progesterone cream..she decided its time to try something more 'invasive' but we're taking it slowly...starting the metformin and also possibly progesterone and see how that goes... than we may start clomid or femara or something else to help me ovulate...right now I dont ovulate at all and without the progesterone... I dont have a monthly

Do you know how hard it actually is to get pregnant? Those women and teens who do must have lottery luck! You have to have the right body conditions during the right 48 hours of the month with a fertile companion to even get the ball rolling... and as some of us unfortunately find out, it still does'nt work out and you miscarry and that's even more heartbreaking than it never happening at all.

Oh yes I completely understand how hard it actually is to get pregnant... I guess if I was a younger girl, cracked out in the backseat of Bubba's Momma's car than I'd get knocked up the first shot right? LOL

Both my cousin's wife and I got pregnant this time after we had pretty much resorted to giving up and were looking into adoption. I had even already been approached about adopting a friend's grandson which came close to happening , but I'm glad she kept him so I can still see him (he's so precious!).

I know what it feels like to be a "Mom" I've already experienced that by being a "step-mom" I loved them kids just like they were my own and if it wasnt for their father being the abusive a-hole that he was... I would've probably stayed with the sorry excuse for a human.. I just have never given birth...I've been pregnant once but miscarried..sometimes I feel so selfish...like I'm wanting a baby for my own selfish reasons but in that same breath...I want my husband to know what its like to be a father just as much if not more than I want a child for myself. I know I was meant to be a mother... one way or another we will have a child if its by me giving birth or by adopting

All I can say is that you ARE still young, and it can still happen without medical interferrence but you gotta stop stressing over it. Stress is the biggest, baddest factor to have and if you get that way now, it can make it worse for the unborn baby if you stress while pregnant.

the only time I get really highly emotional about all this infertility mess... is when I see a baby or hear a baby.. than I get this sick feeling in my stomach like its doing flip-flops and I almost want to throw up and cry at the same time... if that makes sense... I've become such a jealous person too by seeing women pregnant or with babies and toddlers... just kills me sometimes. But, honestly 90% of the time... I'm just fine..its just those few moments out of a month especially when we go to Walmart or the doctor..where there are kids everywhere!

Oh and they've found that dairy products increase the chances of getting pregnant.. I forget how but it was one of those new clinical finds that made sense when you heard it. Something about drinking plenty of milk and increasing folic acid ... I'll see if I can find it online for you.

Only problem with that is I'm lactose intollerant... it makes me sick in more ways than one... I drink soy Milk but cant do regular milk at all..sucks so bad! But, I have also taken a folic acid supplement..

Thank you!

[creekfairy]

I can't speak from experience on this as I conceived the first time within like 2 months after getting married, but I have a friend who got pregnant after over 10 years of trying. Came to find out after lots of testing that she had a clotting disorder, Factor V Leiden. Once that was identified and treated she was able to conceive. Lots of things play into this, and you just have to be patient as already said and trust that things will work themselves out in their own time.

Hang in there!

its crazy sometimes how the smallest little thing can cause you to not be able to concieve
I know a girl who tried for 10 yrs to concieve and found out she had a thyroid problem..got that taken care of and BAM was pregnant with triplets in no time..

its not that I'm totally going for "fertility drugs" or anything like that... I'm trying to treat the PCOS itself first... alot of the time if thats fixed than a person can get pregnant without the fertility drugs

Thank you!

[creekfairy]

it didnt go well
I have a 10cm cyst on my left ovary which is about the size of a small orange
she doesnt want to start me on metformin "yet" in her words
I'm scheduled for another ultrasound this coming Tuesday... I'm thinking they are wanting to surgically remove the cyst since its so large...which might just be aspirating it since its fluid filled and not solid..
I also gained 10 lbs this month... how the crap did that happen!?!?!
I have been on this diet for nearly 2 months now... very low sugar, VERY low carbs....and I gained 10 lbs..what happend to the 5 I lost??
I am 25 lbs away from weighing 300lbs
She explained to me that probably why I've had such a hard time my whole life losing weight and gainging weight like crazy is because of the hormones this cyst is putting off... its messing up my metabolism where I am absorbing things I should be burning off like most people do.
I cried the whole way home and I was just so completely devested yesterday...
And she wants me to come in every 3 months for a pap instead of every 6 months like what was orginally planned |
I just felt like a total failure
I was doing everything right but still gained weight...
and than theres this thing growing inside of me..
today has been better after I've had time to talk to my friends and family about it and calm down... but I'm still nervous
so this coming tuesday is when I go back in for another set of ultrasounds...basically they need better shots of the cyst and to see if its grown any since the last one I had on the 22nd of April... basically they couldnt see it very well before because the cyst is larger than my ovary..

I'll be alright... I know that
I know woman who've actually been able to concieve after having these things removed... it was the cyst causing them to not be able to concieve..and I've even heard of women concieving with only one ovary but hopefully its not going to be that drastic

[chazziff]

dang girl .... jus hoping everything falls in place for you. and to give ya some hope ... sending ya some mojo (not that i have a whole heck of alot ayez).

but ya my sister only has one ovary and she had two beautiful daughters now(turning 18 and 13 this year).

jus try to keep your head up .... your doc really sounds like she knows what she's doing. im sure the plan of action for the cyst can only help your cause too ...

[creekfairy]

thanks Chazz

[chazziff]

no prob ...

ya know ... you really really remind me of my niece .... you two look the same LOL.

and she also has problems concieving (cysts also) - but she isnt actively tryin to have one right now. not with anyone right now (well someone she would want to have children with LOL)

[creekfairy]

She wouldnt happen to have a father she's never met in Oklahoma eh?
I know a long shot... but I've been searching for siblings I've never met... my sibs that I do know look almost exactly like me..especially my baby brother... nothing like seeing what you would look like as a man LOL
Anyways..

My little sister is going thru the same stuff too...cysts and all that business. And, the doctors wont take her seriously because she's only 18..she's not wanting to concieve...she just wants to be able to when the time comes ya know? Not wait until shes ready to and than not be able to...like me

[creekfairy]

well guys... things arent going so great...
but I'm keeping positive about it
I'm going in this coming Friday to talk to a surgeon to schedule surgery to remove the cyst... I've been in ALOT of pain lately and its causing me alot of problems... it started hurting alot right after my first and second ultrasounds..which they werent the regular on the tummy ultrasounds..they were internal...so it makes me wonder if they didnt move the cyst around or something... anyways its been hurting alot since that time... so I dont know when my surgery will be... wont know until Friday

And ontop of that.. my husband is going to OKC June 5th to see a spinal surgeon about his on-the-job back injury we've been dealing with for the past year... when it rains it pours they say

[chazziff]

well jus look at it this way ... what doesnt kill ya jus makes ya stronger. at least you are gettin it removed tho .. good luck!!

[creekfairy]

this is very true
thanks Chazz