Parents - what are your disciplinary techniques? Or do you discipline? LOL

[BurBz]

Okay here's something more about reality, not saying all the other threads are not about reality, but I see alot of parents posting up in here and this actually has to revolve around children and parenting.

How do you discipline your kid(s)? Do you use the "time-out" approach? Do you believe in letting the child find out the hard way as in say you tell them not to rock back and forth on a chair and they continuously do so then BAM they hit the floor?

If you are not a parent, you can respond too! :p

"Outtie" *LMAO* :Angel2

jk bout the "outtie" LOL...
I guess share your insights here! :D

[traci_m]

*I'm going to be taking notes here too, as I have a two year old.* Good post, lb.

[BurBz]

Yeah Thanks Traci.. I hope some peeps post up LOL

:rofl2: :rofl2:

[Lotus Vox]

Beat their asses... and make them pick the switch too. :Mad

[~danielle~]

Re: Parents - what are your disciplinary techniques? Or do you discipline? LOL

Originally posted by luvlybutterfly
Okay here's something more about reality, not saying all the other threads are not about reality, but I see alot of parents posting up in here and this actually has to revolve around children and parenting.

How do you discipline your kid(s)? Do you use the "time-out" approach? Do you believe in letting the child find out the hard way as in say you tell them not to rock back and forth on a chair and they continuously do so then BAM they hit the floor?

If you are not a parent, you can respond too! :p

"Outtie" *LMAO* :Angel2

jk bout the "outtie" LOL...
I guess share your insights here! :D

I let my kids find out the hard way. I'll warn them telling them they will get hurt and if they don't listen (they usually don't) they end up getting hurt. That works because they don't repeat it. Last night my 2 yr old was playing on arm of the couch and I told her to stop because she would get hurt. Well sure enough she fell back and hit her head. My mom wanted to rush over and baby her ( like she did with us) I picked her up and made sure she was ok and then sat her down on the couch and told her to do it again. She said no and cried for a couple more seconds and was off playing again. I know my mom didn't agree with how I handled it but I don't baby my kids. I want them to be tough. I don't know if that's a good way to do it but thats how I do.

[theepowwowchic49]

well

since i already posted about this in pow wow talk I will repeat. BTW I dont have kids. This is just what Ive seen at recent pow wows. Mother's slapping or pinching there kids so hard that the kids cry quietly with tears streaming fromtheir eyes because they know if they cry out loud they will get it even harder or more brutal. Seen kids get yelled at, called stupid, idiot, jerk, fuken basterd, dummy (on and on) punched, pinched, slapped across face and back of head, kicked int he heel as a young dancer about 7 was just about to walk over to grand entry and his mom kicked his heel for not hurrying up. if being a mother entails this kind of cruelty hell no do I want kids.

[BurBz]

PWC49 I guess it all depends on if you have the patience or not with your child ya know?

As for me, I don't believe in any of the things you listed, but it works well for other parents... Yes like Danielle.. I do let my son find out the hard way at times and I do discipline my child but with a 4 year old, you can only do so much because they still don't understand a lot of things but at the same time they do know alot! We talk to our son, tell him right from wrong, let him know it is not nice,etc etc. But if you seen my post up in pw talk as well after i think you submitted your post, I think what some people do is totally wrong, but if its in their blood and they can handle seeing their child in that much pain, but for me, I can't do that to my kids. My parents/uncles/family have taught me that being a mother is a blessing and it should not be taken for granted! :)

[~danielle~]

What thread are youz talking about?

[BurBz]

The one about the ummm POwwow fellas how many babies you got out there, on the last page..

[Grits & Beans]

Originally posted by Lotus Vox
Beat their asses... and make them pick the switch too. :Mad

or elbow them in the head aye L? :Chatter

[kneegrow_native]

I give my kids a little eye to eye at their level in a stern voice.

If they persist, they maybe a little time alone in the room. For some reason, this is a real punishment for my kids.

If they really persist, then it is time for a swat on the butt. Usually it doesn't go this far.

One thing I do not go for, and will swat my kids right away, is when I tell them to stop something, and they do it one more time right after I told them to stop.

[traci_m]

I do know that my mom used to spank me, hit me, slap me, whatever. And now days she even says she regrets that, and often thinks she spanked me too often, too hard, mostly out of anger. Anyway. . .all it did was made me afraid and much more clever to still do things I wanted, but to be sneaky about it. I don't want that with my kids.

[NDNKIDZ]

well here is my theory on parenting....children need guidance,supervision, and sometimes a pop on the behind but you must always take it a step further and tell them how much you love them... Children have a way of making a mother crazy.. children have a way of pushing buttons, and that makes a parent say and do things thay dont want to do. For example: my husband is a very quiet man and he doesnt like any kind of attention brought to him, well a child does not understand this, so in the grocery store or other places if they acted up he would give them a reminder of where they were with a little pich on the inside of their leg, they would settle down and not have to be told again. As they get older and testosterone and hormones become a factor things get a little tougher and a rougher to deal with. All you can hope for as a parent is they have one just like they were.. :D ...


(no parenting skills are perfect its learn as you go)

[tradish_wiyan]

an approach that is tried and true is consistency. once you tell them NO and then say "oh go ahead then"...you loose all credibility. Once they get away with something, they will do it again.

Teach by example...if you don't want your kids to yell, cuss, spit and things like that...DON'T DO IT YOURSELF!!!

Parenting is a gift, children are gifts...treat them with respect, love and encourage them, and lay down the law when it comes to discipline. (wish i could be conisistent...when my girl says "please mama, i love you" i'm a sucker and give in...i gotta work on that more)

[theepowwowchic49]

no respect for yur kids

If your going to hit or curse your kids out then you have no respect for them. Let me ask this? If your husband/wife tried to get something across to you or wanted something done and you were not doing right or not quickenough, does this give him or her the right or the justification to yell or strike out at you?
I know if my boy friend would do this to me it would be on, fists would be flailing and it would getdown right ugly. Because he has NO RIGHT to hurt me physically just because he is not happy about the situation. I think the same should go for parents. Just because your older and the parent don't give you the right to hit or give a little pinch or call your kids stupid. Treat them the way YOU expect to be treated by others.And this goes out especially to the Navajo JINGLE DANCER that can't control her piss attitude and shovels it all on her little kid time and time again. how I wish sobad to give names.