Originally posted by muskrat_skull
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About hypocrisy, I think its a matter of integrity. Making observation is an active process of discernment. And I know you've discerned things in other threads, so not sure why turning a blind eye to hypocrites is a point for you. Maybe its for your buddies? I'm not much for the herd-instinct, lonliness, and having buddies. Maybe that's just the benefit of being connected with ppl doing the speaking. But, what's so good about censoring yourself in front of hypocrites even if they are buddies? I look for kindred spirits with the courage for truth. But I differ with you about hypocrites. I definitely care who I'm speaking with. It's a basic respect I extend to ppl, to care or at least take time to respond. If they show hypocrisy, then they've lost respect. The person is not dis-respecting by pointing it out or taking one on. I think its kind of admirable. So I think reprimanding them is misplaced. Being a hypocrite is pretty low on the scale of human character. Its a distaste I think most ppl have, even to you I think, eventually. And to lbgood & Zeke, I care. It's not wrong to point out in my opinion. So I appreciate the heads-up. I wasn't part of the svastika-family design gang-up,and I didn't really keep up with the thread so much. It was more a disappointment for me, but I believe this is a different issue. Or maybe its not I'm not sure actually. So my distaste starts as of yesterday not before, and I'm giving elo janis a couple of outs to move beyond the rut. I'm not saying she is for sure but lbgood and Zeke seem legit with their observation as it is now. Perhaps one doesn't have to write about it though. But If proper action means nothing then you really don't need to say anything either. Just let ppl feel free to write what they want.
About having a limit, not being perfect, miscommunicating, and having to be right all the time; I agree.
Although I prefer someone who is right most of the time.
About misunderstandings, Docat is definitely a hypocrite and a good real & current example of when you know the attacker/misunderstander comes from that character base, it makes that person laughable and signifies their own problems/shame than the ones they are trying to accuse you with. It addresses the idea of taking ppl to be 'real' and thus the hurt that comes from it. It illustrates my point through Docat's hypocrisy that ppl aren't always 'real,' and perhaps it might still hurt but it surely hurts less when the misunderstander lacks character/substance. I've shown a few of my friends and patients the Green Coffee Extract thread, and she's become abit of a joke around the office. We call it Docat's disease. Thus I say laughable and hurts less. My black friend, not buddy, says he lost respect for nDn's after reading Docat. But tell you honestly, my friend doesn't know much about nDn's. I'm the closest thing he knows to nDn. lol I'm saying that if you take this forum as a type of community, the members become representative of a type of quality. Thus, you might be inclined to take the attacker/misunderstander to be 'real,' but one should make discernment about the attacker/misunderstander. So my comment about misunderstandings is ...its about understanding the medium and discerning character(s) amidst an environment of anonymity before emotional hurt stings deeply. Also words are inadequate, so sometimes they just can't relate to what you're saying. But to add, you can clarify the misunderstanding if they give you a chance. If the misunderstander becomes revealed to be an attacker, then nothing wrong with defending yourself. If we talking about why humans misunderstand. May I suggest space between us. Collateral damage to being in individual bodies.
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