Missunderstandings

[docat]

I was not raising a virtual middle finger. I was advising the original poster to raise a middle finger when people try to twist your words around. Needless to say (or so I thought) this advise was facetious.

But you illustrate my point perfectly. People hear what they want to. The fact that there has already been a misunderstanding in a thread meant to discuss how to avoid a misunderstanding speaks for itself in a way.

The only actual advise I can give to the original poster is try not to take such things personally, use small words when addressing stupid people, and never have a battle of wits with an unarmed person.

No no, I understood you perfectly, young man. You were advising HER to raise a middle finger, and I don't advise her to do something that she wouldn't do in person and join in the fray. What does it profit?

I think it is better to laugh about it and go on. Why play their game? She's better than that. There are enough dirty diapers in the sand box.

[RestlessN8iv]

To Spiritflight: People say things on the keyboard that they would never say or do in person. If you ever wanted to tell someone to "shove it," and really you can't, you can always find someone on line that you can designate to receive the same message.

I'm thinking this behavior makes the person doing it feel better in some small way. They have a lack of empathy for others, so it doesn't bother them...after all, these are only keys on a keyboard. And for the person who is on the receiving end, it can sometimes hurt IF they take it personally. You just can't do that. Your first reaction should be to laugh it off.

I remember that these writers are often just like children. When I was teaching, no one would do what RestlessN8 said to do. At least not to my face. In fact, no one I know would do such a thing.

In person, our social expectations are to respect one another and to be kind and helpful. But in the writer's world, anonymous people are filled with anger and resentment from their everyday lives and they want to play out frustrations somewhere. So they bring it here.

I'm not justifying it at all. I'm just saying that they are sad little writers who think they are SOMEBODY by being disrespectful online. So just laugh at such things. They are like little immature babies in diapers who think they do something great by using the potty chair...it's the same as when they think they've proved something by raising a virtual middle finger.

I was not raising a virtual middle finger. I was advising the original poster to raise a middle finger when people try to twist your words around. Needless to say (or so I thought) this advise was facetious.

But you illustrate my point perfectly. People hear what they want to. The fact that there has already been a misunderstanding in a thread meant to discuss how to avoid a misunderstanding speaks for itself in a way.

The only actual advise I can give to the original poster is try not to take such things personally, use small words when addressing stupid people, and never have a battle of wits with an unarmed person.

[docat]

Extend arm, raise middle finger.

Seriously people hear what they want to, period.

To Spiritflight: People say things on the keyboard that they would never say or do in person. If you ever wanted to tell someone to "shove it," and really you can't, you can always find someone on line that you can designate to receive the same message.

I'm thinking this behavior makes the person doing it feel better in some small way. They have a lack of empathy for others, so it doesn't bother them...after all, these are only keys on a keyboard. And for the person who is on the receiving end, it can sometimes hurt IF they take it personally. You just can't do that. Your first reaction should be to laugh it off.

I remember that these writers are often just like children. When I was teaching, no one would do what RestlessN8 said to do. At least not to my face. In fact, no one I know would do such a thing.

In person, our social expectations are to respect one another and to be kind and helpful. But in the writer's world, anonymous people are filled with anger and resentment from their everyday lives and they want to play out frustrations somewhere. So they bring it here.

I'm not justifying it at all. I'm just saying that they are sad little writers who think they are SOMEBODY by being disrespectful online. So just laugh at such things. They are like little immature babies in diapers who think they do something great by using the potty chair...it's the same as when they think they've proved something by raising a virtual middle finger.

[RestlessN8iv]

An example...

You say - tree -

and someone else understands - water -

So now, without ever asking if it was - water - you're talking about or something else, you get blamed for talking about water in the wrong way... hum...

But you weren't talking about water, you were talking about a tree.

Any suggestion how to escape the blame without having to justify yourself and having to take responsibility for the mind patterns of other people?

Extend arm, raise middle finger.

Seriously people hear what they want to, period.

[Spiritflight]

An example...

You say - tree -

and someone else understands - water -

So now, without ever asking if it was - water - you're talking about or something else, you get blamed for talking about water in the wrong way... hum...

But you weren't talking about water, you were talking about a tree.

Any suggestion how to escape the blame without having to justify yourself and having to take responsibility for the mind patterns of other people?
Do people ever think about something may just be a missunderstanding b4 they attack?