To spank or not to spank

[eucheefolife]

Originally posted by wannabeUrNo1Snag
i completely agree with you..i don't spank my daughter...nor will i ever

would you like to have me as a kid :D :flyaway: :?????: :?????:

[BurBz]

Originally posted by wannabeUrNo1Snag
i completely agree with you..i don't spank my daughter...nor will i ever

coooll!! :Thumbs... yeah thats something i don't want to taint my sons life with... i don't him to be afraid of his parents as he is growing up... and i don't think he or my younger son need to be walking on egg shells around their parents... ;)

[hidatsawmn26]

why would spanking be wrong? i was spanked when i was a child its like comeon its like one woosh across tha butt doesnt hurt the child...it will teach them discipline and show the parents that evetually the child will grow up to respect them.. now excessive woopins is like 5-6 times in a row for the same punishment at that particular hour thats where abuse comes in...some parrents who have the problem with abuse is because they dont know where the borderline is...im a daycare teacher for toddler 1&2 part time and i took those required first aid courses and such but when i took my child abuse and prevention class even the instructor said its okay to spank yar child...so theres gotta be some reason why the parent in this case was triad for abuse...maybe the parent spanked the child excessively and didnt know where the line was crossed...that still doesnt give the excuse for abuse though..now i see parents who laugh when their child does soemthang wrong...now thats wrong in order to set standards/rules for the child ya cant laugh in front of them other wise they'll think if mama or daddys laughing at what i did then its okay to do it again and then they'll never learn and later on wind up in serious problems later in life...those parenting classes where probably set up by adults who had no kids or who havent even been around kids so how would they know? they're just complaining to complain...thats all it is-becca:34: :good&evil :

[saukpuppet]

Re: To spank or not to spank

Originally posted by Kiwehnzii


Have you ever been spanked? Are you a worse person for it? A better person?

Does time-out work? Sending kids to their room? Taking away priveleges? What works?



Tell us about it. How do you feel about possibly being charged for disciplining your child this way.

i hardly ever got spanked as a kid (i was a angel:devil ) but my sibilings got spankings and they turned out fine. i dont see anything wrong with a little tap on the butt BUT, i probably wont spank my kids. well i dont know if i will, im not even going to have kids until im 27ish. that would suck to have to go to jail for giving ur child a tap on the butt.

[Dezgn8veDriver]

NO SPANKING......:33:.

[Ginger]

Yes I use to spank, I also talked to them explaining why they are being punished a swat on the butt didn't hurt them ,I also was spanked & I turned out just fine. noe tha my boys are older I take away their toys.Computer,phone games etc
one time I was in a store & my son at the time was 4 & he took off I got him swatted him on the butt & put him in the cart
well this women came up to me & tried to tell me how to raise my kids that didn't go well for her.
once my boys were fighting so much & slamming doors that I took away their tv & the doors off for a week it worked.
:D if you don't discipline your children they will walk all over you. my boys are much bigger than me but they know not to ever mess with me I just give them the look.

[One Hot Mama]

Growing up in the rural South in a farming family, yeah, we all got our ooks or legs spanked, with a willow or peach switch being the preferred delivery item. I usually got more than my brother because I liked to push the envelop so to speak, but the discipline in our family was consistant: verbal warning first, spanking second. For those of us who didn't get the message, there were the occasional whoopings. Anytime we screwed up, the spanking was accompanied by loss of priviledges-no tv, phone, going anywhere, and as we got older, whippings were replaced by having to do some really hard or disgusting chore, like cleaning out the chicken house or the hog pen, scrubbing the seats in the outhouse(try doing that on a hot summer day), or chopping a rick of wood into kindling.

All 4 of my kids were spanked up until about age 10. I always told them why they were getting spanked, and made sure they understood why what they did or said was unacceptable behavior. Usually the anticipation of getting spanked was worse than the actual whipping. None of them are running wild, in jail or doing drugs or alcohol, they are respectful of themselves and others, and have a great deal of self-control. They are polite to others, especially their elders, and know how to behave regardless of the social situation.

What I can't stand are parents yelling and cussing at their kids, calling them names or denigrating them. That's as much abuse as hitting them with a fist-it may not leave marks on their bodies but it crushes their spirits and wounds their minds and hearts to depths that may never heal.

[BurBz]

Well... all i can say here is if spanking works for you... great.. we all have our own ways of disciplining our kids. I don't ever remember my parents spanking me lol.. to be honest.. i don't think they ever did spank my self or my brother or sister. We turned out fine too :D yes i do remember myself and my siblings having our moments but its like we had priveleges taken away.. and overall we basically knew that our parents were our parents and we had to listen to them.

But i do remember when I became a mother for the first time...my family is really really TIGHT.. i mean very very close. And my uncles talk to my siblings and I like they are our father, maybe because our father passed away when we were kids.. but what was told to me was to praise my kids, love them unconditionally nurture them and to never spank them and they will listen... tell them... "shi awee, shi yazhi.. " they need to be raised with lots of love, i'm not saying you parents that have chosen to spank your kids don't love them, but for some cultures, its more about love and what kind of love you have for your kids. I guess thats why I don't spank my kids and I probably ever won't. And noo my son does not walk all over me either.. nor does he do that to his father or anyone else.. he is only 4 years old.. and we have a long way ahead of us.. but I know we are doing something right if he is listening lol...

[AlmostThere]

not to spank..i got spanked as a child...that mess hurts...ouch!

[nykari]

Personally it depends on the child and situation. Children react differently to various disciplines.

Take O.D.D. (Opositional Defiant Disorder). Spanking would make them think that hitting in general is okay and they can become worse off.

I try other methods of dicipline before I have to resort to spanking. Even that has rules in my house.

[Kiwehnzii]

Originally posted by nykari

Take O.D.D. (Opositional Defiant Disorder).

Well this sounds like pretty new stuff. I guess my Mom & Dad and grandparents and great-grandparents raised us wrong. Did we all have O.D.D.?
I'd like to know if we (those not raised after 1985-90) who are not familiar with all these Alphabet terms, did everything wrong.
Some people have stuff like A.D.H.D. , DDT, THC, M.E.E.Z.E.E., and all these other technical terms.
There are still people north of 60 who cannot speak English. How do you interpret these letters to them into their language. Would they be arrested for giving their kid a swat on their behind because they didn't know their kid had N.U.T.S.?
People raised their kids in a way that they were taught. Are they wrong?
Many of you kids use all these alphabet terms and even got em behind their names. Sorry, but I'm just Kiwehnzii. Not Kiwehnzii L.L.B.,PHD. A.S.S. so I don't know dick about raising kids. I'll have to go to a few workshops on contemporary child rearing techniques.

[Singing Eagle]

Originally posted by Kiwehnzii
Well this sounds like pretty new stuff. I guess my Mom & Dad and grandparents and great-grandparents raised us wrong. Did we all have O.D.D.?
I'd like to know if we (those not raised after 1985-90) who are not familiar with all these Alphabet terms, did everything wrong.
Some people have stuff like A.D.H.D. , DDT, THC, M.E.E.Z.E.E., and all these other technical terms.
There are still people north of 60 who cannot speak English. How do you interpret these letters to them into their language. Would they be arrested for giving their kid a swat on their behind because they didn't know their kid had N.U.T.S.?
People raised their kids in a way that they were taught. Are they wrong?
Many of you kids use all these alphabet terms and even got em behind their names. Sorry, but I'm just Kiwehnzii. Not Kiwehnzii L.L.B.,PHD. A.S.S. so I don't know dick about raising kids. I'll have to go to a few workshops on contemporary child rearing techniques.

Ki - sounds like you know what you're talking about to me!

[dwnsouthndn]

I remember a few spankings when I was a child and I do have to admit that I deserved them. My mother controlled us by voice level,"the look", grabbing the chin and talking directly into our face to make sure we understood, and few other traditional ways! When we got into mischief she give us "the look" and if we didn't straighten up then we got yelled at (which to us seem like a spanken). A spank only came as a last resort! I don't have any kids but I do discipline my sister's kids and I (sister too) use these methods cause that is what I'm use to. I think my sister and I turned out alright!

[nykari]

DANG! Excuse me! I am outtie!

[TurtleWoman]

I would much rather see a child get a simple spanking than verbal abuse...which leads to the kids having mental issues.

When we were in school, it was rare to see a student disrespect a teacher, hit a teacher, or do any "big" thing out of line. Kids knew if they did they'd get a spanking (at school too), but certainly if I caused trouble in school, I got in worse trouble when I came home.

So, you have to wonder if the lack of consistant discipline today, is the reason for all the misbehavior in kids...I think so. Everybody wants to pass blame, and the government steps in and everything gets worse...have to take authority over your household, if it means a spanking (as long as it's not a beating), it should be your right.