What do you do when your significant other makes you angry!!!!!

[blackfoot_goddess]

Yesterday me and my boyfriend got off the phone in bad terms and I just got back and he has an EVIL...I mean EVIL, Away message up and I tried AIM him about it and he hasn't answered....so now I am PISSED!!!!! I either need revenge or self-indulgence.......so give me some ideas!!!!!! What makes you feel better after an F-up situation!?!?!

[Destined to be alone]

Act extra cheery and don't call him.He'll be like {whoa why the [email protected](#*$&^$ hasn't she called me back}O U T T I E:Angel2

[Ginger]

wait it out, usally after a couple days the anger is not so bad,
then have a talk about what happened

my hubby & I have never been argry with each other for more than a day. then we talk. it works for us

[luvlumbee]

Just give it some time and make sure you see both sides. Communication is great but guys hate being nagged to pieces.

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mmm i dunno

[Dancin by the bay]

Just lay down like you are in your pic and he'll come around. How could he not.






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[AlmostThere]

well...i dunno...i usually laugh...but when i think about it....it gets him even madder(ha.

[sarah_sarah_sarah]

Call him evil names and say I want to just break up. But I don't really its just me big mouth saying angry things. I need to learn to keep my big mouth closed when I'm angry.

[RainyDaze49]

#1 Dont do anything stupid!!! By that I mean, dont hook up with no one else, dont go out binge drinkin, dont talk behind his back.

Take this one like a proud NDN woman with some backbone! Figure out exactly whats wrong. If you were wrong, apologize girlie! If he was wrong, when you talk to him, be calm and tell him why he hurt your feelers, or ask him what the real problem is!

You'll be alright!!! Keep it real! and keep yo cool!

[Dezgn8veDriver]

I start cleaning.....LOL....I take my aggressions out on the countertops and floors and dirty dishes........but a lot of the time, I just get very quiet and will take time to cool down before I say something I may regret..... ;).

[One Hot Mama]

I go out and weed the garden, chop kindling, target practice, groom and ride my horse, anything to cool off so I can think so I don't say something I'll regret later. We both have quick tempers and stubborn streaks a mile wide, so if it got out of hand we'd be in a fight lickety-split.

If I'm wrong, I admit it and apologize. If he's wrong he does the same. Then we talk about it so we avoid that same situation on the future. Most of the time we don't get really mad at each other, just irritated, and usually one or the other of us has had a bad day at work, things are on our last nerve, or don't feel good, so the irritation gets blown out of proportion. WHat I've learned from those married for years and years, is if a couple defines their expectations and boundaries, work on communicating, making decisions about money and budgeting, chores, and dealing with parents and in-laws together and stands on that, they usually have few arguments, and resolve the ones they do have pretty quickly.

That stuff you described sounds like he's kind of childish, and guys who are abusive start out doing that kind of thing at first. Maybe you should ask a few questions of people who've known him quite a while about how he treats women.

[traci_m]

I have to avoid giving my husband "the stare down". I'm not even really aware that I do it, but it drives him nuts. Usually I try to leave the situation until I have calmed down. Otherwise, all kinds of things will fly out of my mouth, and I know I'll regret it later.

Though some things. . .damn, I sure do say them in my head at the time. LOL!

But yeah, game-playing? Who needs that? You don't. If it becomes a pattern, I'd call him on it or look for other avenues. ;)