to spank or not to spank

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what are your feelings about spanking you child? do you think it is ok or wrong to spank them?

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it's your decision on how u discipline your child some say it's okay some say it's not

[Coyot_In_The_House]

Timing......Reason, and Clarity is very important.....

I don't like to, but i'd rather it be me then some stranger in the street? Certain strangers who wear uniforms and even power trip from time to time?

They always said never to hit a child....Times change though and the world is whole lot different.....

Now there are Uncles out there who may just peek at you .....SMILE

[CactusButt]

My own personal thoughts are:
Children are little people. I try to treat my kids the same way I would my friends, and co-workers. When my kids do something wrong I try to think to myself "How would I react if one of my friends or co-workers did something like that?" When they are young though it is hard because I've never had a friend do things my kids do.:Chatter I do try to respect them and their feelings though. I have a great relationship w/ my boys because of that and have only had to spank them occasionally. When I was pregnant w/ them my in-laws told me not to scold the other kids harshly as it wasn't good for the baby inside and this helped me alot to control myself when frustrated or angry w/ my kids or neices/nephews. I guess it's up to the parent though. I think the law says something about not using anything but your hand, and not anywhere but the bottom, and only 1 smack or something. Although laws vary from state to state. I say as long as you don't do it when you are angry and you don't hurt them too much, I agree with the only your hand part. Also, if you spank them too much, spankings aren't a big deal anymore. With mine all I have to do is tell them they are grounded from the Playstation and I've won all battles hands down.:Yell :p

[BurBz]

not another thread about spanking?? LOL

this has been discussed in previous threads.. and my reply has always been the same, just like Yote said...times have changed but there are a few parents that still don't result to spanking.

As for me, I don't choose to spank my children. When i first became a mother, my parents/uncles/aunts all talked to my husband and I on how to care for our child(ren) and how to talk to them, in my family, they stress to talk to your kids with care/love referring to your child as "shi yazhi, shi awee" and also in my family, my parents/uncles never spanked us also they shed that light on my husband and I. My family is very traditional and from that and from what i was taught, i choose not to spank my kids. Yes i do discipline them in other ways, but i firmly believe that it shouldn't hurt to be a child, no matter what age the child is. I have 2 kids, my older son is 4 years old and my younger son just turned 10 months old. I think so far, they are pretty well behaved for their age. My 4 year old does have his moments, but you also have to put yourself in their shoes and try and see life in their shoes because they have their limitations at their age. I guess my best advice is to be patient with your child and see what best fits for disciplining :)

[The Rat]

Some kids are good enough to avoiding spanking for the duration of their childhood. The rest.....oh dear God, the rest.

Kids today are bad. Really REALLY bad. Why? Because they aren't afriad of anything. When I, my brothers, and my father were growing up, we lived in constant fear of every adult in the neighborhood. If you cursed in front of a complete stranger, that stranger would beat your a$$ until it fell of, then drag your lifeless carcass home where both your mother AND father would thank the stranger for knocking some sense into their no-good kid, then lay the smackdown on you personally. At school, you'd get your arse pommeled with a yardstick or an aerodynamically efficient paddle for mouthing off at teachers. Everyone: parents, teachers, principals, janitors, aunts, uncles, clowns, stray dogs, God, hookers, the guy next door, cousins, and hobos could kick your a$$ if you deserved it. With the state of the world as such, you learned to act in a respectable manner - and it also made a man outta you.

Now, kids can get their parents and anyone else sent to prison for physcially disciplining them. This results in kids taking on two HORRIBLE personality traits:

1. The little f***ers think they're invincible and can do whatever they want

2. They are complete, utter, and absolute sissies.

The first point is self-evident. Kids yell at their parents, teachers, strangers, and pretty much get away with it. The second point is not so obvious. I shall explain. If kids don't get beatings, they don't get tough. They don't learn how to take a punch (I'm not condoning punching kids, so quit emailing me), they don't learn how to deal with pain, and the next thing you know you've got a fleet of little gay kids running around claiming to be metrosexuals.

Kids are pansies now. They do stuff like learn to ride bikes with knee pads and helmets, and they learn to swim by getting swimming lessons. When I was a wee embryo, I learned to ride a bike on blacktop wearing shorts and nothing else. My kneepads were the ever-growing scars on my kneecaps and my helmet was my skull. When I asked my dad to teach me to swim, he took my little behind in his old Ford Ranger to a lake in Virginia, walked me down the pier, grabbed me by the back of my shorts and chucked me into the water. Literally. I didn't learn how to swim. I learned how keep from drowning - just like a man should.

Beat your kids over and over and over again. If you don't know how to beat your kids, use this link:

How to beat your kids

I can't take anymore. I'm going to go punch my roommate in the back of the head.

[shorty]

patience

little kids need to be listen`d too you have to ask them questions if you just spank them y our not teaching them anything only that when someone upsets them that they should hit them its just not right

when a child is bad you should take a side step set them down have them read a book watch a history movie yes its boring and sometimes hard to understand but lil minds collect stuff and later u will see they learn when their made to watch ;)

so dont spank first simply work through it with them im not saying they cant be lil brats they will push you see how far they can push before you push back *L*

[aknative]

I was spanked as a child. Never beaten. Now that I am a mother to a beautiful 3 year old, I choose not to hit my child. I believe there is consequences to bad behavior. I have respect for my child and I use time outs, discuss the behavior, what will be expected next time and a privlage taken away. Like no cartoons, favorite toys are put in time out or all of them. So far it has worked. Every child is special and different.
Actually right now I'm enrolled in a parenting class. I'm going though a custody battle with my ex. So its recomended but not mandatory to take it. I think its great. Every parent should go to one. I just hope to become an even better parent for my daughter and possibly her children. Because what I teach her and the example I set as a parent today, she will become tommorw for her family. Good and bad.
Happy parenting.

[Dezgn8veDriver]

NO SPANKING.....I've said it before and I'll say it again....I'm there to wipe my son's tears, not create them.....

[bushy_braids]

spank but don't beat or you can just shake 'em up a couple times!
:p

[KasperGirl]

did I see that right?

OMG!!!

time out sheesh what is that? My husband's friend for his baby shower gift (for the baby - who wasn't not born yet) got a time out chair. I thought that was a silly thing. The chair, (or corner) sits there waiting for you to mess up, I dunno. It was strange, a gift.
What does a belt mean?

Personally I never would never hit my kids. I would like to say that I taught them better. I like and don't like it when people tell me that I raised very nice, very good or respectful boys. It makes it seem tainted for some reason. Because you should raise good children, it goes without saying.

I was very abused as a child (the same as The Rat, but not the whole city, just family and teachers). I made some promises to myself growing up and NOT hurting kids was one of them.

I do have family members and some friends that try to dump their horrible kids on me, they think that them being around my kids will straighten theirs out... some even said that I can punish them anyway I like (evil). BUT the stupid thing is....okay they offered me to raise their kids, but when the kids do something or say something (with me there) wrong and they themselves say or do something way bizarre, I tell them that they shouldn't say that or do that but to say this or do that........do you get what I mean?..... but they take offense and here they asked for help.
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[shorty]

i think that when someone dumps their children off on another person in order to have that persons childrens good behaviours rub off on their child its just a fleeting thaught most parents dont want other ppl teaching their kids anything or laying the law down on them they just think they do lol and of course once you have all they can think of is getting back because who are you to tell their kids anything so when your asked to do as such just say no?
i would because most kids today will only listen to their parents and no one else thats not to say the parent themself is a bad parent some kids are very hard to deal with because their loose their respect for adults when their mistreated or just not dealt with theirs ways of dealing with kids the parent simply has to learn how to deal with their own children

i know when i did the after school program and all the kids would show up the teacher in charge said i was in charge most days and i found it quit hard to deal with other peoples children its not the easiest of jobs witch in fact most days their was no disaplin for them that would work please sit down n behave sure didnt get through to them lol then i would meet the parents and they would be mad at me for trying to ask their kids to behave ~when i was in the foster parent role those were some of the hardest children to get through too w/o pulling my hair out

[FancyStar]

I know people on here will jump but I spank my kids. But I only do it when they do something really bad. I try to talk to my kids about most things, even if they get a spanking.
Example: If one of my kids does something but won't admit it, we tell them that if they tell the truth they won't get in trouble but if they lie they will.
Example: My little girl who just turned 2 is mean to her brother who is 3 years older but not too much bigger. SHe'll just come out of no where and punch him or knock him over the head with a toy. SHe get's introuble then! It might be a spanking or not. It depends on how many times I've had to get onto her that day.
Now she has picked up the habit from daycare where if she doesn't get her way, she'll throw hersel on the floor and start
screaming and kicking her legs. She gets sntched up right then and there! If she does it in front of her mamaw or papaw they'll snatch her up right then and there.

I love my children very much and I try to teach them that there are always reactions to the way they act. Whether it's with a big hug and silly time for being sweet and sharing or bedtime with no movie for being stingy all day!

Spanking is a last resource in my house. My kids know that they had better knock their sh!t off before it gets that far!

All esle fails, I just put them in a big box and duct tape it shut!!

[Tsiniti]

My husband and I went round for round over this. He was NEVER spanked except by an Uncle one time. I was not just spanked, but beaten more than once for just little minor stuff. To spank or not to spank, there is never anything wrong with a swat on the butt, as long as the child understands what is going on!

My daughter was a tuffy, we went through the explaining, NO NO, went through the time out thing, then finally looked at each other -turned the brat over our knee and laid a couple hard swats on the diapered behind! Lo and behold, it worked! ok so only as a last resort .... nah it took more than once, let me tell you! She pushes as far as she can to see just how far she can push .... she's 17 now, and STILL doing it!!

We teach her right from wrong, respect, and all worlds of things we know she needs to learn. BUT she'll still get to the point of pushing until we pick up a belt! She knows she's gone too far then and straightens up! without the use of the belt on the behind, there comes a time when a child is too old for spankings! But threats still work!

She doen't smoke, doesn't drink, doesn't run around, doesn't hang out at the Mall .... she really is a good kid, and respectful of elders, and oh so much to brag about...... until she pushes all them buttons with her smart mouth ..... certain people have convinced her she doesn't have to do chores around the house, doesn't have to listen to her parents, can do what she wants when she wants ...... if Mom says it, then it's no good .... grrrrr

spanking works. but only if you talk to the child, before, during and after, and only if it's the only thing left to do! I've been around some children that just the simplist look will deter them from misbehaving, and then there are the ones I don't care what you do, you know they are going to wind up in trouble simply because NOTHING works!

[buckskin pantyhose]

Sure kids should have choices....let em pick what they'd like to be whooped with....1) Metal Hanger, 2) Dads belt, 3) pick a "switch" 4) bare hand!!!

Yup, i'm a firm believe that you should spank your child when they're in need of it. :o