x girfreinds... gurls and guys coment plz

[post182eastern-trad]

ok well hear me out.... im still in love with my x gf and yeah..
but all i want is for her to be happy... so i set her up with my freind.... and now they r goin out and they have been for a month...and this has killed me inside...i mean i try to powwow as much as possiable so i keep my mind off of her but its so hard.. i mean suicide has been big with me from the day she dumped me and yeah idk.. what u all thing..?

:( -mike

[tradish_wiyan]

so if you set her up with your friend, you don't think that you can make her happy (but all i want is for her to be happy). So, she dumped you and your not happy about it. Sit down and talk to her and find out if there is any chance left for you guys to hook up again...posting on here won't help, unless she is a powwows.commer Hang in there dude...theres always someone else if your looking in the right place :Angel2

[luvlumbee]

Geez you are only 15? Hang in there it will get better. I know it hurts but remember we all go through it. Let those thoughts of suicide get out of your head. There is more to life you will see. :)

[tradish_wiyan]

LOL...no wonder your post sounded "teenage-ish", you are only 15!!! Hang in there dude...:Angel2

[wolflady]

hang in there. i am going through a divorce myself. life is hard sometimes but there is the right person out there for everyone.

[EducatedNdN]

x girlfriends are the worst especially when you still have feelings for them and at the same time hate them. Hate them for being all you want them to be and now you can't have them and she's with someone new and living happy without you. Even when you think your over her you reliaze she's the one who got away and you can just kick your own *** for scrweing up. I should have never left my x and left her behind she was everything I wanted and like a fool I left her, thinking this tremendous lady would wait around for me. Why wasnt' I just honest and stayed or brought her with me. Sounds like you did the same screw up and didn't tell your x the truth and set her up with your friend. Your still a kid but when you get older don't be so fast to throw away the love of your life like she'll stick around and wait because someone else will come and swoop her off her feet faster then you know. Especially in the NdN snaggin trail. pila

[Chahta Diamond]

well in my case I'm the ex-girlfriend who wants the man back.My ex and I are always breaking up and getting back together.It could be the same day and we will have a huge fight,break up,fight some more,and then get back together.It's even harder because he's going to school in Oklahoma while I'm here in California.To top that he isn't coming back until the end of May when he graduates.We just recently broke up again and I've been taking it really hard.I did my usual,cry and ask why,then hang up on him before he could hang up on me when he didn't say what I wanted to hear.Then I worte him a nasty letter which was the norm.This time though I think it's too late for us.As much as I want to believe we are soul mates I have to wonder why all the fighting.If you truly love someone let that person know and don't throw them away like they are nothing.You never know when the last time will really be the last time.

[step_2_da_side]

dude .... ur only 15! u got a LONG way to go ;) hang in there and TRY to move on :Thumbs

[TWDBear]

Re: x girfreinds... gurls and guys coment plz

Originally posted by post182eastern-trad
ok well hear me out.... im still in love with my x gf and yeah..
but all i want is for her to be happy... so i set her up with my freind.... and now they r goin out and they have been for a month...and this has killed me inside...i mean i try to powwow as much as possiable so i keep my mind off of her but its so hard.. i mean suicide has been big with me from the day she dumped me and yeah idk.. what u all thing..?

:( -mike

Mike,
The best thing is to don't worry about it or to be beating yourself up over this.

It doesn't matter what your age is, or if it's your wife or girlfriend, it still hurts like heck when it happens. (Puppy love is VERY real to puppies.)

Just continue doing what you enjoy (powwows, etc), being positive about yourself, and with time, things do get better.

Btw, there is no one, and i will repeat myself here, NO ONE who is worth killing yourself over!!! Just take it one day at a time, and sometimes even hour by hour or minute by minute. Things will get better.

I went through my separation/divorce (after 22 years of marriage) back in 2000/2001. It hurt bad, but it does get better.


Tim

[bojack6]

IT will get better little brother

HEY brother never think that way.That isnt indian.Even if you did do it you wouldnt be hurting yourself youd be hurting your family.Think about it,im going to be planting one of my brothers tommorow for that,AND iLL TELL YOU WHAT MY HEART IS HURT.[and it will be for a long time].It will get better as days go by,like everybody says your young there will be alot of oppurtunitys young blood.Just remember familys alwas first.Youll be allrite ,from a brother whos been there Bojack.

[Wojapi4Me]

i mean suicide has been big with me from the day she dumped me and yeah idk.. what u all thing..?

:( -mike

I'm a little surprised no one else said this, but you need to seek professional help right now! Please seek counseling. It's nothing to be ashamed of, but does seem like the right thing to pursue at this time.

[AEn8ive_kita]

your still a youth... you got many hearts to break or get urs broken... but you'll learn through them. I know its hard but you'll get through this! Try to live ur life one day at a time.

[**First Lady**]

I'm with SingerDad....you need to seek professional help! You need to visit with a counselor at school or maybe a teacher could help you. Find someone you are close to...an adult and talk to them. You've already taken one step by reaching out to us in pws.com...now you need to reach out to someone you're close to.

[AngelFeather]

I'm a little surprised no one else said this, but you need to seek professional help right now! Please seek counseling. It's nothing to be ashamed of, but does seem like the right thing to pursue at this time.

I can see that it has taken this long to mention counselling for the fact that most natives within Natives communities are ashamed to seek help in that way...

Any way SD is right you dont need to feel ashamed about wanting help... you are young and this is the time in life that is the most confusing... Im glad that you felt comfortable in coming to this site and sharing... I hope that we can offer sum good advice to you... Please trust people around you... If Possible trust your parents & your grandparents... that they will want to help you... teachers, school counsellors even your Family Doc.... they are there to help even tho to you they are authotarians they are human too and feel human emotions and may be able to give you sum advice or find something to help you cope during this difficult time.. Hang in there and you did the right thing by reaching out.

[little wolf]

Aaww Man.. Keep busy, time heals all wounds. I know these sounds are just "words" but by experience of my past loves and of others that I know you can get thoough this. Please seek counseling, just talking to someone about your feelings CAN ease your pain.. Take care lil bro.. I'll be thinking about you.