powwow break ups?

[mnsotasinger]

i'm just a big brother on hear seeking info to how to help my lil sister and her recent break up with her man. i'll do anything for her and its killing me to see her hurt over this guy. (inever really hung around tha guy) but i dn't want to over react and kick his bum. however we need her spirits lefted, cuz its bringing all of us down.

this guyz excuse is shes to good for him and he'll just end up breaking her heart. she's on here all the time, so just hook us up with advise cuz man i dn't knw how long i can just sit by listening to her cry around.... thanx concerned big brother

[suthernwaterbird]

i'm just a big brother on hear seeking info to how to help my lil sister and her recent break up with her man. i'll do anything for her and its killing me to see her hurt over this guy. (inever really hung around tha guy) but i dn't want to over react and kick his bum. however we need her spirits lefted, cuz its bringing all of us down.

this guyz excuse is shes to good for him and he'll just end up breaking her heart. she's on here all the time, so just hook us up with advise cuz man i dn't knw how long i can just sit by listening to her cry around.... thanx concerned big brother

Does she sing? Tell her to go ask that drum for help. That drum will help her. Pray about it. It will come to you.

[Mr Oakley]

what is her powwows.com name?

[Dawgwhisperer]

Everybody deals with things differently, but just the fact that you're trying to be so supportive will be a big help overall. I know it's hard to see her cry, but she's probably better off just "venting" right now and going through that emotion. You don't say how old she is, or if this is her first boyfriend, etc.

All I can say is, be ready to listen when/if she wants to talk, give her some space, but let her know you're there and don't get in trouble by going after the guy. It won't solve anything! I've considered it in the past with my son's ex-girlfriend and two of my daughter's ex-boyfriend's. It really isn't worth it.

I'll pray for you and your sister that she will find peace and happiness and you will be blessed with happiness and health as well. I had a younger brother that died 20 years ago. I still miss him alot. Your sister is very lucky to have you!

[badmaninc]

Tell her to forget about him and move on. Dude's prolly just a gutless wonder and doesn't want to be in a committed relationship. Or your sister is crazy so she wants to be with a guy who treats her like this.

[~pathwalker~]

If he is telling her that she is too good for him then SHE IS! It also means that he wanted to say something other than "I am cheating or I am not feeling it the way you are." She doesnt need him. Be there for her. Take her places and keep her busy so she doesnt have time to dwell on it. too much time to think about it usually means that she will try and pursue him again and get back with him. How old is she? The younger you are (she is) the harder it is. She is feeling rejected. if you can, show her that there are guys who are better for her and that will accept her the way she is. The "your to good for me" excuse is just a way of getting out of the relationship without giving her the truth and looking like an azz. Make her feel guilty so he dont have too.

[Plenty Fox]

Time, love and prayer...

Man, I wish I'd had a big brother!! You are doing the only thing you really can--but what you are doing is invaluable. There are really no magic words or actions to make a break-up easier. It is one of those 'rites of passage' we have to go 'through', not 'around' and in the end, we are all the better for it. I am hearing an echo from the past, it isn't 'her' with the problem, it is 'him'. She is grieving now, and that is normal. Time will help heal the pain, and her perspective that she has suffered a loss. Eventually, she will recognize that she is better off without him and allow herself to be emotionally available to someone less self-absorbed, someone who will put her first. The 'sisterhood' is with her. Been there, done that. Let her cry it out and then point her in the direction of other activities. I wouldn't doubt she put her life on hold for him, probably quit seeing friends she used to, possibly quit doing things she really enjoyed...remind her of life 'before'. And, of course, pray. Prayer can bring us answers. They may not be the one's we want but that is the way of prayer. It can help us be true to ourselves, when we get in our own way. My prayers for all of you...

[whalawitsagirl]

breakups

Well In All Honesty The Reason Is Because He Probab;y Was Cheating On Her And Even Tho Your Being A Big Brohter She's Also A Big Girl And These Come With The Territory. And I'm Sure Your Being Very Supportive Just By Being There With Her, No If Only You Could Convince My Brother For Being There For Me...

[Pvt Butter]

i'm just a big brother on hear seeking info to how to help my lil sister and her recent break up with her man. i'll do anything for her and its killing me to see her hurt over this guy. (inever really hung around tha guy) but i dn't want to over react and kick his bum. however we need her spirits lefted, cuz its bringing all of us down.

this guyz excuse is shes to good for him and he'll just end up breaking her heart. she's on here all the time, so just hook us up with advise cuz man i dn't knw how long i can just sit by listening to her cry around.... thanx concerned big brother

You are a nice big brother.

[sltate]

"This too shall pass", is a good saying to stand on. It takes a toll on everyone when your sibling,child,etc. is going through this but it will pass and the saying"time heals all wounds" will come into play. There is a reason for all the old sayings, someone went through it and survived and wrote about it, told about, and it stands true.
Just be there to pick up the pieces, it is her dilemma and you being there is the best thing to do. Beating his bum will just involve more drama, someone will beat his bum eventually anyways if he keeps breaking hearts like that. LOL

[whalawitsagirl]

For The Most Part

"This too shall pass", is a good saying to stand on. It takes a toll on everyone when your sibling,child,etc. is going through this but it will pass and the saying"time heals all wounds" will come into play. There is a reason for all the old sayings, someone went through it and survived and wrote about it, told about, and it stands true.
Just be there to pick up the pieces, it is her dilemma and you being there is the best thing to do. Beating his bum will just involve more drama, someone will beat his bum eventually anyways if he keeps breaking hearts like that. LOL

FOR THE MOST PART I AGREE BUT THE WHOLE TIME HEALS ALL WONDS TIME TO ME DOESN'T HEAL ANYTHING IT'S WHAT YOU LEARN FORM THE SITUATION AND HOW YOU CARRY YOURSELF, IN MY OWN PERSONAL OPINON ANYWAYS

[angelsaenz]

Poor thing, it is hard no matter how old you are, be there for your sis and ya'll get busy, staying around just thinking is not good!

[injunboy]

aw man those were the days... i remember my first big break up. it about killed mee knowing she was just right there and i couldnt do a damm thing.

my first big break up was the nicest gurl ever. she was what dreamed of. but over the summer something happened and i ended up with a differnt gurl. i wanted this other gurl sooooo flippin bad and i couldnt do a thing. the gurl waited for threee long years for me. man o man.

i was younger and didnt see the forest from the trees. glad the creator led me down the right path. i see what was planned and dont have any regrets. i am happy the way all things worked out.

on a differnt note i can understand the round dance songs better. i can listen to country and understand what the hell those hicks are singin about.

[ndnguy]

Pray, let go, move on, live.

[AlmostThere]

Yup......in other words.....Next subject......

I sure, so sure that theres other guys way way better than is bum a$$. Let it go, move on....