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    Hi
    I writing about this because I think it is very important to teach kids about respect to the elders. What you think? A good idea or bad idea.
    Migwetch, WPD
    Asema Is Sacred
    Traditional Use, Not Misuse
    Wakan Tanka please have compassion on me.
    OK Niji we are running a train with red over yellow at this powwow.

  • #2
    I think respect starts at home... I was raised to respect elders or else. Not only that... I was taught why.
    SHAKE IT!!!!

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    • #3
      Hi Singing Otter,
      A good point about respect start at home.
      Migwetch, WPD
      Asema Is Sacred
      Traditional Use, Not Misuse
      Wakan Tanka please have compassion on me.
      OK Niji we are running a train with red over yellow at this powwow.

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      • #4
        Respect is something that is not as commonly seen these days. Nowadays, kids can just about get away w/ murder. It makes no sense what kids can get away with. And what makes it so bad is that they know they can. That is why they are dangerous. Sorry! Thats just the teacher coming out of me! :D

        Althought I don't have any children of my own, I grew up to value and respect all elders. And I must say, and my behind will agree, it has been something that has kept me alive and offered much support in return.

        Yes, it does start at the home and quite often, they are not given a full explanation. To do so in such a manner does more than just teach respect towards our elders. It also teaches the value of our enriched culture. So many are growing up today without ever knowing a thing about who they are!

        So I would say, "Very, very, important! Very, very appropriate!"

        SHSinger

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        • #5
          It is very important and encouraged. Offering tobacco shows the reciever that you appreciate his time and words.

          But not everyone appreciates this, so it needs to still be on a one by one basis. Meaning: some people, who you might want to talk with, might not need or want the tobacco.

          Here's my concern, and please do not take this the wrong way, anyone. Our elders are very protected jewels to us; we honor them the same way we honor our children. By this being on a public forum, I don't want to give anyone the impression that all you have to do is offer tobacco to any elder and they will tell you whatever you want to know. uh uh - nitch - that's not how it works. Don't cheat yourself of the opportunity of getting to know a person, by assuming that offering tobacco means they are going to think you are an enlightened being, and tell you the meaning of their world. If they still do not know you, they will treat you the same way they would any other stranger - and thank you for the free smoke. ;)

          If you are genuine in your quest for knowledge, the answers will come to you. Be patient. Enjoy life.
          Everything is gonna be alright!

          Be blessed - got love???

          This b me.....

          www.myspace.com/akayo

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          • #6
            She:kon Folks:
            It has already been said that respect begins at home. I think we can say it goes even further. Respect for others can only come when children and all of us are able to first show respect for ourself. The many ways we do that are taught first and foremost by example.

            With teaching our children to have self respect and good self-esteem, respect for the Elders will not be too difficult at all because it basically embodies respect for all things and all people, regardless of age.

            Giving tobacco in the present sense is a new phenomenon. Tobacco was given at times in the past but not like it is being taught now. Now adays there are "Elders" who won't do anything, even cross the street or pick their nose, unless tobacco is first given.LOL I am sorry but I wasn't brought up that way. There are times when tobacco is given that it is appropriate and there are times it is not.

            The main thing I learned was Elders were treated like you would treat anybody else, with respect, dignity, honor, kindness, love, and compassion, etc. No difference. Again this "Elder worship" is part of a new phenomenon. The kindest thing you could probably say to an Elder was to refer to them respectfully as Grandfather or Grandmother. Just my thoughts. Onen.
            ~Tree~
            Skennen enhsenontonnion':hake - May you have peace in your mind and heart.

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            • #7
              Ace, smart move!
              Tree, point well put! I apologize for my post earlier, it shows my youth. ;) And yes, I will agree with you. It is not always needed by the elder. And I'm glad you made that point about it being a new phenomenon b/c I was under the false pretense that it was something widely done.

              See there, you do learn something new everyday!

              Before I follow in Aces' footsteps and remove myself, I will comment on one thing I have seen. I have seen one individual greet an elder with a basket/bag of fruit. Has anyone heard of/seen this? Do you think this would be appropriate for different situations?

              SHSinger

              [ April 04, 2001: Message edited by: secrethillsinger ]

              [ April 04, 2001: Message edited by: secrethillsinger ]

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              • #8
                OK. I hope no one kills me for this. I feel as though showing Elders respect doesn't always encompass giving tangible things. Teaching kids to respect themselves and portraying an upstanding character that carries on the traditions that the Elders teach. Giving things may not always be appropriate, but walking the paths that our Elders have set before us is always approriate and can never go wrong. I feel as though teaching our kids to walk that path and respecting themselves is the kind of respect that speaks volumes over tangible gifts. If you have this kind of respect, the offerings fall where they should. My 2 pennies! :D
                IF

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                • #9
                  Hi
                  Secrethillsinger, Thats a good point you made about respect is in a short supply I fine thats is true today kids.
                  Smokin' Ace please explain yourself I'am .
                  Migwetch, WPD
                  Asema Is Sacred
                  Traditional Use, Not Misuse
                  Wakan Tanka please have compassion on me.
                  OK Niji we are running a train with red over yellow at this powwow.

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                  • #10
                    My point was everyone is diff. Different strokes for different folks. We have a responsibility on this board to not mislead the average person. Not all elders want tobacco. Not all elders need tobacco. I understand what you are trying to say WPD; I am sorry if what I said confuses you.

                    It's all good.
                    Everything is gonna be alright!

                    Be blessed - got love???

                    This b me.....

                    www.myspace.com/akayo

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                    • #11
                      Hello
                      Smokin' Ace, What other things I could do
                      to install respect to elders from the kids?
                      Migwetch, WPD
                      Asema Is Sacred
                      Traditional Use, Not Misuse
                      Wakan Tanka please have compassion on me.
                      OK Niji we are running a train with red over yellow at this powwow.

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                      • #12
                        There are 1,000 ways to instill respect in our children for our elders. Walking the walk, talking the talk. We as adults need to lead by example.

                        No disrespect to you, WPD, but I will gracefully bow-out of this conversation, and allow others to answer this for you.
                        :D
                        Everything is gonna be alright!

                        Be blessed - got love???

                        This b me.....

                        www.myspace.com/akayo

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                        • #13
                          Hi
                          Thanks for the respones.
                          Tree, good point about respect starts at home. :)
                          Iron Feather good point in your post about character and traditions that the Elders teach to the kids. :)
                          Asema Is Sacred
                          Traditional Use, Not Misuse
                          Wakan Tanka please have compassion on me.
                          OK Niji we are running a train with red over yellow at this powwow.

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                          • #14
                            OK :D
                            Asema Is Sacred
                            Traditional Use, Not Misuse
                            Wakan Tanka please have compassion on me.
                            OK Niji we are running a train with red over yellow at this powwow.

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                            • #15
                              There are specific reasons to offer tobacco, and not just to the elders. The act of giving tobacco is not a requirement for showing respect.

                              My mother is a well respected elder, she would not need to receive tobacco (nor would she want it). When someone comes to visit her, she feeds them and if they have come from a long distance, she also gives them a gift, that is part of our culture.

                              The issue of teaching children respect, has to come from the home. But I will say this, I have yet to see an Indian child treat an elder with disrespect. I live on a reservation and worked in a school - the children were always respectful to the elders. Respect needs to go both ways in the schools.

                              The giving of food is also an important part of our culture. There is no procedure or symbolism for this...it is a gift and will always be accepted.

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